Contents:
- Medical Video: The Effects of Bullying: What Parents Need to Know
- How to help children who become bully victims at school
- 1. Make children feel safe and comfortable at home
- 2. Notify the school
- 3. Help children find solutions together
- 4. Train children's reactions
- 5. Report to the authorities if the case is severe
Medical Video: The Effects of Bullying: What Parents Need to Know
No parent imagines if a son and daughter will become a bully victim. Bullying, also known as perisakan, is still a great homework for the school, parents, and especially the children themselves. Then what can parents do if the child turns out to be a bully victim? Following are the tips.
How to help children who become bully victims at school
1. Make children feel safe and comfortable at home
The first thing you have to do is make your child feel safe and comfortable with you at home. Because, in a school or social environment, children already feel threatened and scared.
Therefore, make sure that the conditions at home are quite calm, supportive, and safe for children. When children talk about their experiences being bullied victims, listen calmly and patiently. Don't rush or cut the story so he feels safe enough to let you know.
You also have to convince your little one that you will always be there to support him in dealing with this problem. Also tell him that you are not angry or disappointed at him, that the child is not wrong. What's wrong is only the bully, aka the perpetrator.
2. Notify the school
It is probable that bullying will occur at school. If so, immediately discuss this issue with the school like a teacher or counselor. Often, the bullying case is unknown to the school because new children will act when there are no teachers around them.
3. Help children find solutions together
Children who are bully victims usually feel helpless, hopeless, and scared. Therefore, it is important for you to empower children to find solutions to their own problems. Problem solving skills will be very useful, even to adult children later. The problem is, cases of bullying usually occur when children are only alone, without parents or teachers.
For example children tell that every day they are always taken by the perpetrators. Fishing the child by asking, "What do you think you can do so he stops taking your food?" Well, here the child's answers can vary and might surprise you. Stay calm and direct the child to find a solution.
For example, by saying, "If you push him to the ground, do you think that tomorrow he will stop bothering and take your provisions?" That way, the child will be trained to think about the consequences of each action and words carefully.
Make sure that the child feels the solution comes from himself, not dictated by his parents.
4. Train children's reactions
Facing a bully is not easy. Children should not overreact so that it further ignites the emotions of the offender, but staying silent will also not change things.
Then what should the child do? Reply to the offender with words that are brief, firm, and clear. For example, "Stop mocking me,", "Shut up," or, "Not funny, "then immediately leave the perpetrator. If by chance the child cannot go anywhere, just stay away from the perpetrator and do not pay attention to it again.
Remind children not to react with violence or harsh words because the situation can turn around 180 degrees. If the child is unable to deal with it again, seek help from an adult.
You must continue to remind your child of the importance of reacting appropriately when facing bullying.
5. Report to the authorities if the case is severe
In certain cases, the child may be a severe bully victim. For example, the perpetrator uses the threat of violence, sexual abuse, or even acts of violence against children. This is not the realm of the school or between parents, but must be dealt with through the law.
However, it would be nice if you let the school know before reporting the perpetrator. The school may offer to do mediation, but in the cases mentioned above, you still have to report to the police to protect the child.
