Contents:
- Medical Video: TYPES OF SCHOOL BULLIES!
- 1. Physical oppression
- 2. Verbal oppression
- 3. Acts of exclusion
- 4. Cyber-oppression
- 5. Sexual oppression
Medical Video: TYPES OF SCHOOL BULLIES!
Schools should be a safe place for children to learn, develop, and build friendships. Unfortunately, sometimes the school environment becomes a very frightening place for children who are victims of oppression. The phenomenon of suppression or often referred to bullying is one of the problems that until now has not been completely eradicated in the school environment. The reason is, bullying can occur without the knowledge of the teaching staff or the authorities in the school. In many cases, victims bullying do not dare to tell anyone about the conditions they experienced because they were threatened by the bully or bully As a result, the school had difficulty tracking these actions.
If the school cannot detect or not take action against the case bullying, it's your job as a parent to see the signs and nature of oppression experienced or even done by your child. Basically, there are 5 types bullying which often occurs in the school environment. Sometimes, a child can be a victim of several types of persecution at once. Because the characteristics and effects on children vary, see the details of 5 types bullying the following.
1. Physical oppression
Usually physical oppression is one type bullying the most recognizable. The victims will receive various abusive physical treatments ranging from obstructing the victim's path, stumbling, pushing, beating, grabbing, to throwing things at him.
Note if your child's body often appears injured for no apparent reason. Usually the child who is a victim is reluctant to admit that he or she is being physically bullied for fear of being perceived as a complaining worker or because he or she is threatened by the bully. So, the child may answer that the wound is obtained when playing basketball or falling from a ladder. Another feature that you should pay attention to is if your baby is small for his age while his friends are bigger than him. This makes your child more vulnerable to being a target. Be careful if children start complaining of headaches, stomach aches, or nausea. It is better to immediately check with your child to a health facility.
If you observe these features, talk carefully with your child. Don't force or threaten him to confess. It's better to ask how it relates to friends at school, whether he feels good with friends at school, or whether he has the desire to change schools. Then discuss this problem with the school by including evidence of the persecution your child is experiencing.
2. Verbal oppression
Type bullying this is no better than physical oppression. Verbal oppression is done with painful or degrading words, statements, nicknames, and psychological stresses. Because the impact is not immediately visible, the oppressor will not hesitate to make inappropriate remarks and this is usually done when there are no witnesses or adults.
This oppression is usually directed at children whose physical, appearance, nature or social background is different from other children. Often types bullying this is experienced by children who are obese, awkward, or their achievements in school are less visible. The characteristics of victims of verbal oppression that can be observed are changes in attitude such as being not interested in eating, quiet, not confident, and easily offended.
Don't advise the child to ignore the perpetrators of verbal abuse. This will actually make the child believe in the words of the offender. Instead, teach your child to retort insults or ridicule from the bully in an adult way. For example, by saying, "Don't make fun of me like that," or, "Instead of insulting other people, it's better to just look for other activities there," staring at the perpetrator's eyes. At home, all you can do is shape your child's confidence and teach that nobody deserves to be treated arbitrarily.
3. Acts of exclusion
Exclusion victims may not be physically or verbally abused, but instead be hostile and ignored by their social environment. Children become isolated and forced to be alone. Children will also find it difficult to find friends because usually the bully has a strong enough influence to persuade others to isolate the victim.
If your child is often alone, doing group assignments alone, never playing with friends outside school hours, or never talking about his friendship at school, it could be that your child is a type of victim bullying this. Exclusion victims also usually close themselves and your family.
All you can do is take time to chat and communicate warmly with your child every day. Ask about his days and feelings. Don't underestimate the child's request if he asks to change schools. You can also focus on developing children's interests and talents, for example by registering swimming lessons or learning musical instruments so that the scope of their association expands.
4. Cyber-oppression
Type bullying in cyberspace (cyberbullying) is oppression which is fairly new. This oppression occurs in cyberspace (the Internet) for example through social media, applications chat, SMS, or electronic mail (e-mail) Because of its free nature, your child may receive oppression from someone he doesn't know or someone with a username (username) guise. Bullying what happens is usually insult or satire. It could also be gossip about your child that is disseminated through social media.
Characteristics of child victims cyberbullying is often spending time in cyberspace but looking sad or depressed afterwards. Another sign is to sleep late or not even sleep at all, withdraw from association, or become very protective of electronic devices they have such as cellphones or computers.
To deal with cases cyberbullying, save all file and proof of oppression. Because it is usually difficult to track the perpetrators cyberbullying, ask for help from the school or the police to take action against the case. Meanwhile, to protect children, limit the time children spend in cyberspace. In addition, you also have to learn about social media or sites that have the potential to be a means of oppression. Try to use it to test how safe the site is for children. You can also set special settings on gadget children who are safe and appropriate for their age.
5. Sexual oppression
If your child has entered early adolescence, type bullying this can happen. The oppressor will comment on, tease, try to peek, even touch the victim sexually. Not only that, sexual oppression also includes spreading photos of victims who are sensual and personal, taking photographs of victims secretly with the aim of satisfying the sexual arousal of the perpetrators, or forcing victims to watch or see pornographic things. In some cases, sexual oppression is a crime, namely sexual harassment or violence where the perpetrator can be prosecuted legally.
Most victims of sexual oppression are girls, although it is possible for boys to experience this type of thing bullying this. Some signs that you can observe are the value of subjects decreasing, appearing fears of the opposite sex, irritability, changing dress styles, withdrawing from association, or experiencing depression.
If you suspect your child is experiencing sexual oppression, invite your child to talk carefully without the intention to criticize or blame the child (for example because of how to dress or the child's attitude towards the opposite sex). Emphasize that what happened to him is not his fault at all, but the wrongdoer. The next step is to discuss it with the school to take action against the perpetrators. If your child reports sexual abuse that is quite serious, check with the child to a health facility and put it in the police.
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