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The first menstruation, aka menarche, is an important event for the life of a girl. Not infrequently this event caused confusion and fear for some girls because they were shocked to see red blood spots in their underwear.Even so panicked the child could ask while crying, "What blood is this mother ...?"
Even so, there are also girls happily welcoming this first monthly guest. Hmmm ... Whatever the reaction, the first menstruation holds the same meaning for each girl, which is a sign that the child has entered puberty. So, how to introduce menstrual problems to children? Know the answers in this article.
Preparing children for first menstruation
Most girls will experience menstruation first when they are 12 years old. However, it is possible that they can experience it before that age. That is why it is very important to talk to children early so that they are ready and not surprised when they have their first menstruation.
Not only for girls, boys also have to be invited to discuss menstruation. This is done so that they also understand what is experienced by their mothers, sisters and female friends every month.
Here are some tips that you can do to prepare your first menstruation for children.
1. The earlier, the better
Begin to invite children to discuss menstrual problems outline early. Basically, not only about menstruation, education about the human body, especially the reproductive organ system must be introduced early. No need to be shy or feel uncomfortable. The reason is, if you are reluctant to discuss with children early on, as the age goes by the child will look for it from other sources that are not necessarily right.
Start talking to girls with simple conversations like "If you grow up, your body will change like Mama. Later there will be certain changes in some parts of your body. "
2. Adjust to the age of the child
Although it's important to explain about menstruation early, don't forget to adjust the ingredients of your discussion to the child's age and knowledge. You don't need to discuss this in detail at one time at a time. You can invite children to discuss at casual times or whenever there is an opportunity. In essence, this discussion was carried out in stages. The goal is for children to easily digest and not be confused.
As girls get older, then you include discussion material about menstruation specifically. You can talk more about the meaning of menstruation, for example the menstrual process and the effect of menstruation on the development of the child's reproductive organs. That is why, you also have to actively seek information about the human body. Don't forget to explain to children if menstruation is a natural process that occurs in women every month.
3. Don't be nervous or embarrassed when answering a child's question
As explained above, give an explanation to the child according to his age and knowledge. You certainly don't need to explain in detail if your child is 3-6 years old.
This generally happens often, when the child suddenly finds a sanitary napkin and asks you about its usefulness. Answer the question with simple information that the child can understand. Don't feel embarrassed to explain or go into broad explanations because you are nervous. You can answer like, "Mama uses this every menstruation." If the child doesn't ask further questions, you don't need to explain further about the menstrual cycle, ovulation, and the female reproductive organs.
Besides that, don't hesitate to answer "Don't know" or "Later Mama will find out first, yes" if you are confused to answer the child's question. Remember, your daughter needs factual information about menstruation and all other changes when they enter puberty. Writing or scaring will only make children distrust you and instead make them look for that information in other sources that are not yet appropriate.
4. Study together with children
Invite children to learn and discuss together related to human reproductive organs, menstruation, and puberty through books, videos or images that come from various literature. So, you and your child can add knowledge to each other. In addition, this method can also be a way to spend free time with children by discussing useful things.
Questions that are generally asked by children about menstruation
Here are some of the questions most often asked by children about menstruation and how to answer them.
1. "Why do only women experience menstruation?"
You can answer something like this: "Menstruation is a natural process that only occurs in women. Menstruation occurs because of a process in the uterus, which is only present in a woman's body. The uterus also allows women to get pregnant. "
2. "What if my first menstruation happens at school?"
Well, this question is one of the great fears of girls when they have their first menstruation at school. Being embarrassed and anxious for fear of menstrual blood "leaking" or penetrating a skirt is something most girls fear.
If the child has entered the signs of puberty such as - the breasts are enlarged, growing fine hair on the pubic or armpit, and so on you can teach to use sanitary napkins and always be prepared to carry sanitary napkins in his bag. So if later the child experiences her first menstruation at school, or in another place besides at home, the child is ready with the dressing.
3. "My friends have menstruated, how come I haven't?"
You can answer "The menstrual period of each woman is different. So, don't be surprised if there are women who experience menstruation faster or slower. And that is normal. "