Contents:
- Medical Video: Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 8 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner - Domestic Violence
- The key to preventing dating violence is within yourself
- 1. Know and realize violence can occur during courtship
- 2. Get to know the early signs of dating violence
- 3. Look for friends who can be trusted
- 4. If necessary, invite your partner to a psychologist
- When should I get out of this dangerous relationship?
Medical Video: Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 8 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner - Domestic Violence
Violence between couples is not only happening in the household. Although bitter to be heard, violence in courtship is no longer a new phenomenon in this country. Most are rooted in blind jealousy and possessive possessions, then slap and slap swear words. It is also possible for courtship violence to end in rape.
Although dating relationships are not bound by official law, it does not mean we can tolerate acts of violence in them. Here's what you can do to prevent dating violence.
The key to preventing dating violence is within yourself
1. Know and realize violence can occur during courtship
In fact, many people experience violence in courtship, but not all realize that he is actually a victim. There are a number of things that underlie this. Most people choose to nrimojust the harsh treatment of his girlfriend for fear of losing, or feeling confident that he can change his "bad habits and temperament" to be even better.
Many also do not realize that they are victims of abusive relationships because they basically do not know that acts of violence can occur during courtship. There are many forms of violence that might occur, ranging from physical, verbal, emotional, to sexual violence. Violence can happen to anyone, anywhere. In fact, most cases of domestic violence are carried out by the people closest to the victim.
- Physical violence, for example kicking, pushing, slapping, punching, forcibly pulling, grabbing, hitting, and threatening to use sharp weapons.
- Emotional violence, for example lowering self-esteem, using embarrassing calls, humbling, yelling, mocking, manipulating, publicly humiliating you, tarnishing good name, degrading comments, making rules that are curbing and unreasonable, limiting your relationship with people others, to show possessive attitudes.
- Sexual violence, for example forcing / threatening to have sex, sexually harassing, extorting to get sensual photos, spreading sensual photos, and many others.
2. Get to know the early signs of dating violence
Not only must you know the form of violence, you also have to recognize the initial signs of dating violence. That way you will be more alert. Here are the signs:
- The couple looks very aggressive
- Couples cannot control their emotions, even when spending time with you
- The couple shows rapid mood changes, for example before he was angry at you then changed instantly to be good and super romantic.
- Tend to force and manipulate you to do everything he wants.
3. Look for friends who can be trusted
If there are problems or things that block, don't hesitate to find a friend to talk to. If you and your partner are in trouble or have a fight over something, don't hesitate to tell someone you trust.
Listening to the opinions of outsiders will give a new view of the solution you're looking for. Confidence also allows you to share emotions and not suppress yourself. In addition, there will be other people who know the condition of your love at that time. So if something unexpected happens, someone you can rely on as a first aid.
4. If necessary, invite your partner to a psychologist
In some cases, the tendency to have violence can be overcome through consulting professional counselors. The reason is that the tendency to abish the boyfriend can come from a childhood trauma. IfYou want to remain serious about having a relationship with him, you can ask your partner to go to a psychologist to correct his rude behavior.
Of course this is not always easy to do. You must be careful when inviting the boyfriend. Maybe, you can also ask your family or closest friends to persuade him. But of course this does not apply to all cases.
When should I get out of this dangerous relationship?
If you suspect or have even experienced one or more of the above forms of violence, and have done various ways to ask for it to stop but it doesn't work, you should immediately end the relationship before it's too late.
Although this sounds like a clear thing to do, many victims do not realize that they deserve to be treated with respect, and therefore do not claim their rights.
Also, consider what you are willing to do for him? What will you really not do? Make sure you adjust this demand with your personal well-being and principles.
Don't agree to do simple things to just keep peace or save risky relationships. Especially if you already know it is not right for you.
If you think that you or the person closest to you might be a victim of dating violence, contact the complaints hotline Komnas Perempuan at + 62-21-3903963; police emergency number at 110;ATTITUDE (Solidarity with Victims of Violence Against Children and Women) at (021) 319-069-33;LBH APIK at (021) 877-972-89; or contactIntegrated Crisis Center - RSCMat (021) 361-2261.
