Contents:
- Medical Video: How to make love to your aspie - SEX, aspergers and relationships, what you MUST know!!
- Tips and tricks for having sex for autism
- 1. Talk to people you trust
- 2. Differentiate public space and private space
- 3. You just have to be confident
- 4. Know what makes you and your partner comfortable and not
Medical Video: How to make love to your aspie - SEX, aspergers and relationships, what you MUST know!!
Sex and sexual desire are a natural part of all human beings. No exception for people with autism. However, having sex for autism may be a little different from sex in general. Because, autism can affect how you interact and communicate with other people, including with your partner.
But don't worry. You can see a variety of sex tips for autism below to heat up your nights and your partner in bed.
Tips and tricks for having sex for autism
1. Talk to people you trust
Symptoms of autism basically have emerged and developed since during the child's developmental period, but can be disguised until he grows up because the symptoms may not appear fully. That's why many people get a diagnosis of autism too late until they grow up.
So that sex with your partner can feel comfortable, it's good to share this concern with someone you trust. Don't regard this as something embarrassing and taboo. Ask things that you don't understand, so you will understand and be able to do it.
If necessary, you can ask this directly with the doctor, especially regarding questions about sexual health or the use of contraception. You can invite your family or closest friends to accompany you.
2. Differentiate public space and private space
It is important to know which spaces are public and personal so you can know which ethics and rules to use. There are different behaviors and actions that are allowed in the "private" area, but are not permitted in the "public" space. Vice versa. In general, sexual activity is not permitted in public spaces. This is because it can make other people feel uncomfortable or even angry and can make you vulnerable to being misunderstood. This is also sometimes against the law so you have the potential to experience problems.
In general, sex is permissible and safe in a private room. Simply put, a private room is your personal / private place where you can feel fully safe and comfortable. Only you can enter the private space, and if other people want to enter it they must first obtain permission. This includes the bedroom and private bathroom. Or even your home, if you don't live with someone else. But if you are in your own private space and there are other people (except your boyfriend or husband / wife), now that place is a public space.
3. You just have to be confident
Don't compare your abilities with others, no need to imagine that you are different and "taste" will also be different. You are sometimes afraid that you cannot make your partner happy, in fact, someone who lives with you now is someone who has accepted your "special condition". So there is no reason for you to feel worried.
4. Know what makes you and your partner comfortable and not
Sex is not just a matter of inserting a penis into the vagina or fulfilling your sexual desires. This intimate activity must be accompanied by love and affection, so that you can enjoy it.
If your partner feels uncomfortable with what you are doing, you may not continue or force it. Ask in a soft tone or intimate whisper, what he likes, or what you have to do to make him happy. Asking this makes you understand what you have to do to achieve mutual enjoyment.
Vice versa, if there is something you do not like, say directly to your partner, do not be afraid this will damage your intimate event both.It is very important to respect yourself and know what you like and do not, and your interests and needs. You must be sure to communicate these things to your partner.
You must also be sure to respect your partner, and their right to have different needs with you and to express those needs. Relationships are about communication, negotiation, and mutual agreement. A relationship without these things cannot last long.
