Contents:
- Medical Video: 5 Attitudes of a Man Who Lies
- Attitudes that need to be avoided when fighting with a partner
- 1. Defend yourself
- 2. Always feel right
- 3. Leverage the mistake
- 4. Refuse to discuss
- 5. Always interrupt and don't listen
Medical Video: 5 Attitudes of a Man Who Lies
Poor communication can make the relationship tenuous and stressful. Unfortunately, many people find it difficult to apply a good communication pattern when arguing with their partners. Most people tend to behave and speak uncontrollably which of course can trigger new conflicts. For that, there are various attitudes that should be avoided when fighting with a partner, so that the problem does not drag on.
Attitudes that need to be avoided when fighting with a partner
In order for your relationship and partner to stay awake despite being in a fight, it's good to avoid the following attitudes such as:
1. Defend yourself
Ego will be very difficult to control when fighting with a partner. Many people actually defend themselves rather than admit their mistakes. Usually this is done because of prestige, does not want to be blamed, and rejects the fact that it is indeed the cause of the problem.
You can be weak and defend the argument. However, do not be surprised if the partner slowly backs away from the relationship that is being lived. Defending yourself when you are wrong will not solve the problem. Better, admit it openly and learn to be responsible for mistakes that have been made.
2. Always feel right
Just because a partner doesn't have the same view doesn't mean you are the right one. Because, you do not force couples to be able to see and think of things in the same way. Don't just feel your partner is wrong when you both have different opinions.
Instead of feeling right, you should find a middle ground to mediate the difference between you and your partner. Don't just always want to be right without listening and ignoring the views of your partner.
Don't just think about your satisfaction because the relationship is something that is shared by both on mutual agreement. So that whatever happens, interests, happiness, and satisfaction of both parties must take precedence.
3. Leverage the mistake
When you and your partner experience a conflict, usually the words that often come out are "You always ...", "You never ...". Sentences beginning with the word mean to generalize the situation. Even though it might be the opposite.
If you take this sentence out to your partner, it's not impossible that he feels unappreciated. The reason is that the business he has done so far is not considered to be due to only one small mistake. If the couple already feels unappreciated, the conflict that occurs can be even more heated.
4. Refuse to discuss
When a partner offers to discuss a problem, often one party rejects it. Whether because I do not want to be blamed, instead discuss it, and various other reasons. Well, this attitude really needs you to stay away when fighting with a partner.
Problems can only be solved by talking about them. However, when you insist on not discussing it, your relationship will never improve. If you think that the problem will be resolved without needing to be discussed, then you are wrong.
When fighting, who has feelings of anger not only you but also a partner. But think about it, even though angry couples keep trying to solve it by inviting you to discuss it. Therefore, lower your ego by opening yourself to solving your problems both.
5. Always interrupt and don't listen
Everyone can speak but not everyone can listen, especially when fighting with a partner. Many people try to interrupt and prepare what they will say to respond to their partners. Unfortunately, it's very selfish if you do this to anyone, including your partner.
Because, if you always interrupt and do not become a good listener, you will not know what the couple really complained about. Therefore, learn to be a good listener when your partner is talking. By listening to it, you can understand the partner's point of view and empathize with his feelings.
