Contents:
- Medical Video: 6 Tips on How to Have a Strong Relationship
- 1. Find out the root of the problem
- 2. Invite your partner to talk
- 4. Find a joint solution
- 5. Appreciate each other
Medical Video: 6 Tips on How to Have a Strong Relationship
When you get married, you and your partner have a new task, which is to take care and clean up the house. So, the division of responsibility needs to be done so that you and your partner are not overwhelmed. However, this division of domestic work often does not run smoothly as expected. Even though you have shared the task of cleaning the house, sometimes one partner does not do it for various reasons.
If the event lasts only one or two times, maybe you still understand. However, if this happens continuously without the partner's awareness to realize his mistake, you certainly become upset. Anger that is buried for a long time can undermine your desire to be nice and intimate with your partner.
Therefore, if you experience this then immediately complete and do not delay. Because, this imbalance can still be improved by the following methods:
1. Find out the root of the problem
First, try to see again whether the division of work is agreed upon by both parties or even you who share it and the couple agrees. If so, maybe some of the work you give to your partner doesn't like him or is too heavy so he becomes lazy.
You can also feel that you are too often nagging on the results of his work so that after a while he is lazy to help clean up the house. By finding out what is the root of the problem, you can determine the solution.
2. Invite your partner to talk
After you see the root of the problem, try to get the couple to talk. Remember, you are talking about this to solve it, not to create a new problem. So, don't corner the couple. The trick is to talk well with tones and subtle language.
Express what you feel and observe all this time. After that, let the couple respond to your feelings. You can see your partner's reaction whether he actually realized his mistake or not. Then ask for a partner's explanation and opinion about this.
4. Find a joint solution
If you both already understand the point of the problem, then discuss the best solution and try to reach an agreement together. Sharing housework is difficult, but most importantly you both agree.
If the previous distribution feels unfair, you can adjust it again to reach agreement both. Ask to enter the pair about what kind of division would be fair. You can also make this division more flexible, for example by changing every week so you don't get bored.
5. Appreciate each other
If the division of work has resumed, do not hesitate to give appreciation to each other. Instead of commenting negatively, you better give appreciation and praise to what the couple has done.
Just saying thank you for the work your partner has done can be a great award that you might not realize. Maybe you think, why should you also thank the responsibility that you should have done?
Eits, make no mistake, appreciating your partner by saying thank you can encourage him to do his job better. In addition, couples will feel valued and do the same for you. Fun is not it?
After everything is solved and goes well, you and your partner only need to do one more step which is consistent. Consistent carrying out the responsibilities that have been given to each will prevent the old problem from happening again.
Do not make the work clean up the house as a burden. Remember, you are not alone and there are always couples who are ready to help because housework is basically a joint job. You and your partner are a team that needs to help and support each other. Getting home with a partner can be fun if you and your partner can help each other so intimacy can be intertwined.
