Contents:
- Medical Video: 6 Behaviors That Kill Relationships (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
- 1. Fight
- 2. Pretend to enjoy sex with a partner
- 3. Work on a mattress
- 4. Comment on the partner's body
- 5. Keep each sex fantasy secret
- 6. Play cellphones
- 7. Look passive
Medical Video: 6 Behaviors That Kill Relationships (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
For couples (couples), the bed is a place to be desired to rest and get closer to a partner. However, there are still many couples who actually make beds as work desks, places to stack clothes or bags, and other unpleasant things. If so, how do you and your partner want to enjoy a passionate sex life? There are two of you who are reluctant to have sex on the bed. So what are the restrictions so that you can still enjoy sex in bed? See below.
1. Fight
The bed becomes a place to relax and unwind after a full day of activities. However, not infrequently this place is also used as a place to fight and spill all your resentment with your partner in your free time before going to bed. Unresolved problems can make you or your partner refrain from having sex as a punishment for those who are considered wrong.
Sleeping with anger will not bring good benefits to your health or your relationship with your partner at all. Therefore, do not make the bedroom, especially the mattress as a place that has negative air. Instead, make a mattress as a place to unwind and make love with a partner to improve the quality of relationships.
2. Pretend to enjoy sex with a partner
Honesty in sex life is important, you know. Unfortunately, you may have pretended to enjoy sex just to please your partner. For example by praising their partner or pretending to orgasm. Even though in fact, you do not enjoy and like the way your partner is having sex.
Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and sex counselor in the United States, says that it's better to honestly talk to your partner about which movements or positions you like and don't. If you are notmoodhaving sex, there's no harm in also telling it to your partner. There is no need to force yourself because neither of you will be able to enjoy forced sex.
3. Work on a mattress
When you feel bad mood because of the accumulated work and problems in the office, it's a good idea not to take him to the bedroom when he gets home. Because, this can interfere with your sex life and partner. Quoted from Readers Digest, research shows that stress can kill a woman's sex drive.
So, don't even be busy responding e-mail orchatwith office people or continue to work on the bed. First complete all the work before you go up to bed, for example in your study or in the front room.
You can also do various ways to calm down first like taking a warm bath, praying, or meditating for a moment.
4. Comment on the partner's body
According to sexual health experts from the United States, Gloria Brame, Ph.D., criticizing the couple's body to make him inferior to become one of the factors causing sexual dysfunction in women.
However, this does not only apply to women. Tracer Cox, an expert on romance and sex, said that more than 90 percent of men are worried about their penis size.
Therefore, throwing criticism and scathing comments about each other's body does not bring any benefits to the couple's sex life.
Precisely if you want to enjoy sex, accept your partner for who he is. Explore every corner and curve of your body, regardless of size and others. As long as you both can be mutually satisfying, why should you comment on your body in a negative context?
5. Keep each sex fantasy secret
Everyone must have their own sexual fantasies, including you and your partner. Have you and your partner ever tried to express each other's fantasies? There's nothing wrong with trying something new if you and your partner both don't mind.
Trying new things can improve the quality of your sex and partner. Conversely, refraining from talking about sex fantasies will only make sex feel monotonous and boring.
6. Play cellphones
Some people still like to play cellphones in the middle of a hot session with a partner. Either to check incoming calls or messages that might disturb the atmosphere. Of course this makes you alone and your partner can't enjoy sex passionately.
Your partner might think that your cellphone is more attractive than him. So, you should keep your cellphone out of bed, especially when you and your partner are having sex. If you are easily tempted to check your cellphone, turn it off first or set it to silent mode (silent).
7. Look passive
Seeing a partner who is passive or not enthusiastic when making love can extinguish the passion, you know. For that, try to show that you are passionate and very enthusiastic about making love with your partner. However, of course don't pretend!
