Excessive obsession with idols, normal or not?

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Have you ever admired someone public figure which you don't know, from the beginning onlyngefans usual, until a long time ago can not stop thinking about it? Does this mean you fall in love with your idol? Or, maybe you're just obsessed?

Love is an emotion that has the power to remove all other emotions, and can restore us from the saddest conditions in our lives. But what happens when love is present to damage and invite negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, or anger? The result is obsession.

When someone becomes obsessed, he does not want to admit that he turns out to have an obsession with something or someone, because the word obsession itself is considered a bad thing. But in fact, many of us are obsessed with something.

Some of us may be obsessed with clothing, others are obsessed with food, others with appearance or obsessed with their work, even obsessed with someone we idolai. What is clear, as Dr. Carmen Harra, PhD, an intuitive psychologist on her website CarmenHarra.com, what we need to understand is that obsession will never be something positive.

"Even if we are obsessed with helping poor people or spreading love, which is a positive thing, still there must be no thoughts or actions that dominate our lives to the point where we only live for them," said Harra.

The word "obsession" comes from the Latin "obsidere", which means "to sit in it, or inhabit". People who become our obsession are like inhabiting our brains. They are the main concern that surrounds our mind.

Obsession can affect our minds

When an obsession dominates us, it will steal our will and weaken all the pleasures of life. We will become bodo, when our mind repeats dialogue, images, or words that are the same. In chat, we only have a little interest in what others say, and only talk about what is our obsession, not aware of what the impact on others.

As stated by Darlen Lancer, JD, MFT, marriage and family therapists, as well as experts in deep relationship and codependency PsychCentral, obsession has different strengths for everyone. When obsession is only in the light stage, we can still work and control ourselves. When obsession gets more intense, our minds will focus on our obsession.

What needs to be considered is that obsession can affect our minds. Our minds run in circles, feel anxiety, fantasy, or try to find an answer. They can take over our lives, so we can forget hours, sleep, or even days, and we are distracted from fun and productive activities.

Obsession can paralyze us. Sometimes he encourages us to behave compulsively such as repeatedly checking email or social media. We lose control of ourselves, our feelings, and our ability to think logically and solve problems. This obsession is usually controlled by fear.

There are lots of obsessions that can have a negative impact on us, but there is only one way to stop it. "The best way to stop obsession is to come to our common sense," explained Lancer briefly.

5 steps to controlling obsession

Maybe at first it's a bit difficult if you immediately try to get rid of obsession with yourself, good at it. Starting from an obsession with clothing, food, women, even idol actors or singers.

However, Alex Lickerman, M.D., general medicine doctor and also assistant vice president for Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago, revealed several steps in controlling obsession, as he wrote in PsychologyToday.

Divert your attention. Force yourself to tame your obsession by ignoring it. Look for something more interesting and comfortable to divert you from that obsession, to give you a break from your obsession. This will help you remember that there are other things in life that are more important. Read novels, watch movies, or help friends who are more stressed. Do something that can get you out of your own mind.

Complete pending work. Sometimes an obsession prevents us from doing something. Maybe obsession makes us unable to finish reading books, not focusing on doing assignments, or lacking attention to friends who are in need of help. Take the time to focus on one goal, and create a new goal after it is reached.

Focus on your biggest goals. Find your life goals both short and long term. And if you can find life goals that can inspire you, you will be able to awaken yourself to return to reality when obsessive thoughts attack you.

Do fun sports activities. Do any physical activities that are pleasing to you and can distract you from your obsession. You can do meditation, join karate, or dance. Spend a lot of time, because over time, obsession will disappear by itself.

Listen to what other people say to you. If you have close friends or family who are worried about your excessive obsession, they might be right. Open your ears and mind to what they convey to you.

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