Contents:
- Medical Video: Narcissist's Pain: Narcissism, Sadism, and Masochism
- Is that masochist?
- What causes someone to experience this condition?
- How to diagnose this condition?
- Can this sexual disorder be treated?
- Other sexual disorders that you need to know
- 1. Exhibitionist
- 2. Voyeurism
- 3. Necrophilia
- 4. Pedophilia
Medical Video: Narcissist's Pain: Narcissism, Sadism, and Masochism
Sexual behavior while hurting a partner or even hurting yourself is a disorder. This sexual disorder is called masochism. Is that masochist?
Is that masochist?
Masochism or masochism is a condition in which a person feels aroused, even to orgasm, when they are beaten, berated, bound, made physically ill while having sex.
This masochistic condition is included in the category of parafilia aka sexual disorder. A person diagnosed with masochism will usually experience other symptoms. These symptoms include excessive anxiety, experiencing shame without cause, and obsessive thoughts with masochistic ideas continuously.
But someone who has a tendency to do masochism may not be said to be masochistic if they are able to control their masochism. A person is also not called a masochist if he has other symptoms as described above, and is able to fulfill his sexual satisfaction without committing masochism.
Masochism actually has another specific type, called asphyxiophilia. This is a condition in which a person receives sexual satisfaction by holding his breath which is helped by his partner. Can be done by strangling, covering the face with a pillow, or other things that make them hold their breath. Not infrequently, many sufferers of this type of masochism lead to death from being out of breath.
What causes someone to experience this condition?
Until now the cause of the sexual disorder of masochism is unknown. However, Psychology Today says that there are several theories that predict sexual disorders when someone's fantasies cannot be tolerated. There are also other theories which say that this is a way of escaping from reality. For example someone feels more manly when doing masochism in bed. But behind that, he is actually a shy person, quiet and even afraid of the opposite sex.
By acting according to his fantasies, these people feel that they are different new people. In addition, some psychoanalytic theories suspect that this masochistic behavior is caused by childhood trauma (eg sexual abuse) or childhood experiences related to other cases of parafilia.
How to diagnose this condition?
Usually, doctors diagnose this case of masochism if someone has experienced intense recurrent sexual stimulation. However, sexual stimulation received is also accompanied by other violent activities, such as being beaten, humiliated, tied up, or experiencing some other form of suffering.
A person is said to have a masochist if he has felt this type of fantasy encouragement or behavior for at least six months. This is also accompanied by other aspects of life that are disrupted, such as work and social.Masochism sexual behavior usually can be seen and diagnosed since early adulthood and sometimes even starts from the age of children.
Can this sexual disorder be treated?
Can, but not easy. There are several ways that must be done to deal with sexual disorders of masochism.
Psychotherapy methods
Psychotherapy is done to find out and overcome the causes of the perpetrators of masochism by doing deviant things. The therapist will later help the offender change the mindset during sex and try to bring empathy to the masochist.
This changed mindset aims to change the convictions of the perpetrator, that the sexual behavior that he has done so far is wrong, dangerous and should not be done. Meanwhile, efforts to generate empathy were carried out with the aim of helping the perpetrators understand the side of victims who suffer from masochistic behavior. Understanding that behavior is fatal, both in terms of victims and perpetrators will be instilled in the perpetrators.
Cognitive therapy
This sexual disorder can also be helped by cognitive therapy. This therapy helps patients to manage their sexual desires in a healthier way. One of the psychotherapy strategies is to make the perpetrator engage masochism, become a victim, and then experience negative events to reduce his desire to commit violence during sexual intercourse.
Psychodynamic therapy
This therapy links memories and conflicts (perhaps from the past) that you may not realize but also influence your sexual deviant behavior. Psychodynamic therapy will help reveal the children's early influence on the current habits of masochistic offenders. This method also helps explore the current factors that contribute to the emergence of addiction to sexual behavior in the present.
Take antidepressant medication
Antidepressant drugs are often prescribed as drugs to reduce a person's sex drive. In addition, masochistic sufferers may also be given drugs that are useful for lowering testosterone levels to reduce the intensity of their erections.
Other sexual disorders that you need to know
1. Exhibitionist
Exhibitionist or exhibitionists are people who like to show their genitals in public or unknown people. Maybe this sounds "sick" to almost everyone, but for some exhibitionist, according to Stephen Hart, a forensic psychologist, this is the way they impress others.
Exhibitionism is a psychological disorder of the type of parafilia, according to Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) V. Meanwhile, parafilia itself is a sexual desire that tends to be extreme and unusual. For the people exhibitionistdisplaying their genitals in public gives pleasure sexual alone.
2. Voyeurism
This sex disorder is one of the conditions in which a person gets sexual satisfaction by peeping, stalking, looking, and seeing other people secretly. People followed are usually doing activities, such as naked, changing clothes, or taking a bath. From this activity, voyeurism actors get sexual satisfaction by seeing other people unnoticed.
3. Necrophilia
Necrophilia or necrophilia is one of the other extreme sexual disorders, namely having the desire to make love with the body (the body of a deceased person). This could be a serious crime. The experts decided that this included an act of rape. This is because a deceased person cannot give approval for actions that other people will do to him.
4. Pedophilia
Pedophilia is a disorder in sexual desire that occurs when an adult's sexual orientation is focused on children, not adults. According to Ray Blanchard of WebMD, pedophiles (the name for pedophile perpetrators) usually do and have sexual desire with teenagers or children aged 13 years and under.
Now the action of pedophilia has been classified as an act of sexual abuse of minors. However, there is something to note that not all pedophiles abuse children. Of course, not all people who commit sexual violence in children are pedophiles.
