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- Medical Video: Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU
- Lasting love requires mutual trust and openness between each other
- Start with small things
Medical Video: Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU
Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship. But of course there is nothing that can be achieved for free without effort, especially from yourself. Psst ... You must have these two attitudes (as well as him, you know!) So that your relationship is always lasting and harmonious until old age.
Lasting love requires mutual trust and openness between each other
Trust is one of the main foundations in building a healthy relationship. Without mutual trust, you will continue to be shrouded in suspicion and anxiety about the couple who ultimately damage your relationship.
Growing an attitude of trust can be quite difficult, especially if you have been disappointed before. However, know that without trust, your love relationship and your partner will not last long. Just a little there is a feeling of distrust that grows in your heart towards the attitude or gestures of your partner, potentially creating problems later on. Suspicion and anxiety can also hinder other positive attitudes that will only appear if there is trust. Of course this makes all your efforts to maintain a relationship useless.
Mutual trust will also make it easier for both of you to be open to each other. Ironically, covering up important secrets from couples, including those closest to you (including ex), sex life, history of illness, information about personal finances, or the tendency to abuse drugs and alcohol, is a fatal mistake that is often done a lot people when having a relationship.
No matter how long you have been dating, you need to know your partner inside and out. Likewise with him. Starting from feelings, dreams, views, vision and mission of life, hope, to fears and weaknesses. Your openness to your partner to show who you are in the most vulnerable situations can help strengthen your relationship. When he already knows what you are like in your worst times and he stays beside you, you no longer worry about your relationship. Vice versa.
Showing mutual trust and openness between each other is needed to grow and strengthen intimacy. If you believe in your life partner, it will be easier to express all your worries or tell your darkest secrets without fear of being judged. the more open someone is to their partner, the more intimate the relationship will be. Likewise, on the contrary, the closer a person's relationship is to the attitude of trust will grow. That way, someone will be more open to their partners.
Not everyone can be open to anyone except the person he truly trusts. Therefore, you are one of the lucky people if your partner wants to be open.
Start with small things
Starting to grow a sense of trust and openness can be started from small things. For example, when a partner says he will go home later than usual because of work, then you need to believe it. Don't just accuse him of all sorts without reason just because you are blinded by jealousy.
Big trust won't grow if you don't start small. Remember, treat others as you want to be treated. So if you want your partner to trust you what you need to do is trust him. That way, automatically reciprocal relationships will work well.
Then, try to be open to trivial matters such as expressing your sad feelings when a pet falls ill. Although trivial and seemingly insignificant, it is from these small things that greater self-disclosure will emerge. Maybe you and your partner include people with introverted personalities who are not used to expressing things easily. For that, start from small trivial things before continuing to reveal bigger things.
When you start, it's very possible that your partner will be moved to open up to you. This is what is known in life as a reciprocal rule. This feeling will emerge when the couple first expresses their feelings so that you feel "He can tell stories, why don't I tell you too?"
It is also important to remember, when a partner has revealed the most personal things from him, never ignore it. Try to show your enthusiasm and empathy in giving responses. In this way, the couple will feel he has opened himself to the right person and he will treat you just as you did to him.
Although it feels difficult at the beginning but putting trust in opening up to loved ones is not a wrong decision. This will bring many positive changes to your relationship if done correctly.
