Contents:
- Medical Video: 10 Things You Should Never Say to Teens
- 1. Give them space
- 2. Create a special time
- 3. Be a good listener
- 4. Two-way communication
- 5. Give them "provision" of information in socializing
- 6. Don't hesitate to ask them
Medical Video: 10 Things You Should Never Say to Teens
Maintaining communication with your child who is growing up is certainly not as easy as when they were children. At that age, often they feel they are mature enough and able to do anything themselves. Therefore, it is not surprising if at that age they will be more difficult to be invited to communicate because they feel they already have the "right" to determine what they want to do.
But as parents, no matter how difficult you face, you still need to be by their side to provide guidance, affection and support. Give them room to grow, but still in your eyes; one of them is by maintaining communication.
Unfortunately, differences of opinion between you and children who are getting older often trigger debate. It is not uncommon to make your relationships with children tenuous, or, your child loses the trust to communicate with you. Therefore, here are some things you can do to maintain good communication with teenagers:
1. Give them space
Teenagers are more dependent on their friends. You don't need to feel homely or think your child is away from you. Because, at this age, your child starts independent learning, so it's not surprising if at this age your child starts spending more time with friends or having secrets that you shouldn't know.
2. Create a special time
You may have difficulty communicating with children because he spends more time playing with his friends. Therefore, you need to make a special time to gather with your child, such as family members' birthday celebrations or holidays. By doing this, you not only improve your relationships with children, but you also teach about interpersonal communication skills.
3. Be a good listener
When they are children, you can still give direct questions, for example, "How is the school?" Or "How is the exam today?" To begin communication. However, in adolescents, these questions will sound annoying and make them lazy to answer them.
Therefore, when your child is teenager, all you need to do is position yourself as a good listener, without giving many questions or patronizing. By doing that, your child will be more comfortable and open to giving information without feeling forced.
If you listen to what they say, you will get a better understanding of the guidance, perspective, and support they need. By listening, they will also know that they get your full attention, and you are trying to understand their feelings.
4. Two-way communication
Being a good listener does not mean you cannot put out a word. Of course you can still give advice and advice to your child. This two-way communication is very important because it can make your child feel heard and understood, making them more open to you.
5. Give them "provision" of information in socializing
Pre-teen age is a vulnerable age because at this age they will see many things in their environment. Because of that, you need to be brave enough to talk about adolescent relationships today.
You need to provide them with the right information (including about sex, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, etc.); because if not, they will get information that is not necessarily true of others. This is done to build strong foundations and provide them with information that is in line with developments.
6. Don't hesitate to ask them
Not infrequently, your child will use the slang they use with their friends. So, if you don't know the meaning of the language, you don't need to hesitate to ask about the meaning of the language. The more you know and occasionally use these words, the child will feel close to you.
