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Medical Video: SINGLE PARENTING 101 | 10 tips to make single parenting easier | Part One
As single dadit will be difficult to balance the life of the office by taking care of the house alone. Without the support of a partner to share the burden of responsibility or make a decision, you must provide more support for the children while you yourself may feel alone.
You may also worry about the lack of a female figure for your child. If you are too tired or busy to emotionally support your child, or discipline them, behavioral problems may arise.
Here are some suggestions that you as a single dad can successfully raise your baby and also have free time for yourself.
1. Manage household finances
Learn how to make a monthly financial budget. Know when your salary and other income will be disbursed and note the dates when your household bills - school tuition fees, electricity and water bills, children's pocket money - maturity so that you can prepare funds in advance. Don't forget to also make long-term financial planning, such as your child's tuition and retirement.
If possible, do your best effort to increase your cash inflow channel, such as long-term investments or small businesses (selling via the internet, for example) in addition to your office work.
2. Use reinforcements
All single parents need help. No exception, fathers are known as can-and-know-all figures. It's satisfying to be able to master everything alone, but there's nothing wrong with turning to help to support you. Help can be someone to look after children while you work or only someone you can talk to when feeling overwhelmed.
Girls, in particular, need to feel the presence of other women to help them with a number of things; there are a number of topics that they will feel uncomfortable having to discuss with you, such as menstruation or sexual relations. Ask for help from your grandmother, aunt, or sister's cousin to help you both solve your child's problems.
If there is no female figure in the family, you can ask for help with the figure of the woman around you who has a strong, confident, and independent personality. You could ask for help from your child's teacher, a female coworker in the office, or the next-door neighbor's mother, or one of his mother's friends.
Every woman can provide assistance as long as your daughter feels comfortable chatting with them, and you are absolutely sure these people will be good role models for her growing up.
3. Create and maintain daily routines
Living as a single dad among busy office work, taking care of children, and keeping the home environment clean and safe is an easy task. Some people get frustrated because they are not very familiar with the washing-up task. If family finances make it possible, hire a child caregiver or household assistant to help manage the house. However, if you want to save money, one key: dividing time.
Make a regular daily and weekly schedule - breakfast time, lunch hour, when to pick up children, sleep at night, when to spend monthly - and obey, so that your child knows and understands what he has to do every day. A consistent routine will help your child feel safer and help you be more organized.
4. Stay disciplined
Children will develop well when they know and understand what behaviors are expected of them by others, especially their parents, and which rules they must obey.
If you are divorced, work with your ex to find out and make good disciplinary rules and methods for your child. If your child is under the supervision of others, explain to them about your expectations about the way they discipline their child. Consider reevaluating certain limits, for example when watching children's tv when he or she can show more responsibility.
Dissatisfaction and crankythe child is only temporary, but the values you have planted since they were young with discipline will last until he grows up.
5. Spend time together
Even though piles of laundry and dirty prings call, take a moment to play together, read them bedtime stories, go to the mall, or just watch a movie at home. And most importantly, focus on the relationship and love of you and your child as a family.
But, don't forget to set aside time for yourself to just relax or drink coffee with other adults, or or you will become irritable when faced with children because they are overwhelmed by stress. So, leave your child for a while to play at grandma's or aunt's house, and go watch the latest movie!
6. Open with your child
It is undeniable, your child will begin to ask many questions about changes in his family, or about his mother's whereabouts. Answer your child's questions honestly, using simple sentences that are appropriate for their age. Make sure that your child gets the help and support he needs to deal with difficult emotions.
When your child is in trouble, you cannot just tell him what they should do; You must listen to your child's explanation, and offer suggestions. Let him try to think of your suggestions to make the best decision. Keep communication between family members open; your children will need to know that they can 'run' to their father to ask for help and advice without rejection and judgment.
7. Don't make your friends confide in your child
Living alone without a partner, you sometimes feel tempted to rely too much on your child for comfort, a sense of companion, or sympathy. But children do not have the ability, emotional capacity, or life experience to act as a substitute for an adult partner.
Father still plays the role of father. This means that no matter how heavy the divorce or separation you are, you must remain a firm head of household but still loving your baby, invite them to play, and also provide time and various facilities for them.
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