Contents:
- Medical Video: How Childhood Emotional Abuse Affects You In Adulthood
- What is verbal violence?
- 1. Keep certain information confidential
- 2. Disputing
- 3. Denies
- 4. Violence with jokes
- 5. Dominate the conversation without willing to budge
- 6. Accuse and blame
- 7. Disparaging and demeaning
- 8. Curse and insult
- 9. Threatening
- 10. Ruling
- 11. Defend yourself even if it's wrong
- 12. yell
Medical Video: How Childhood Emotional Abuse Affects You In Adulthood
In everyday life, violence transforms into many forms. The most easily recognized is physical violence. However, besides physical violence there are still other forms of violence that are not less sadistic and should be watched out for, namely verbal violence. This form of violence is often not realized, both by perpetrators and victims.
What is verbal violence?
Although verbal violence does not leave visible marks, this form of violence is as painful as physical violence. A number of studies have shown that victims of verbal violence can experience serious psychological trauma. In addition, this violence is also very likely to destroy partner relations. So what are the signs of verbal abuse? Look carefully at the twelve types below.
1. Keep certain information confidential
Just being silent and keeping certain information from your partner secret includes violence. Because, this is always done intentionally so that victims feel helpless.
For example, you deliberately did not say that you will come home late at night so that the couple still prepares food and waits for you to go home as usual.
2. Disputing
Differentiate between constantly arguing and arguing. Occasionally, debate is a natural and healthy thing in a relationship. That means you both convey each other's point of view without intent to hurt.
While couples who always refute your words mean to make you discouraged. For example, you both eat in a restaurant. You praise the delicious food, but the couple immediately refutes and says the food is not tasty.
3. Denies
Denying here means not acknowledging your feelings or opinions. For example, you ask your partner to accompany you to an event because you really want to go together. However, your partner instead denounces the couple by calling you spoiled and selfish.
4. Violence with jokes
Your partner may hurt your feelings in his words, then when he sees your reaction, he will argue that he was just joking. This is always a justification for saying rude or harassing you.
5. Dominate the conversation without willing to budge
Couples who dominate conversations tend to determine what important topics are discussed and those that are not. For example, if you start talking about things that interest you, he will ignore them and immediately talk about topics that he thinks are more useful.
6. Accuse and blame
It is different from giving constructive criticism, accusing and blaming you more. In fact, your partner blames you for things that are actually out of your control.
For example when your partner is late to the office. He may blame you for being slow to drive. In fact, at that time the road conditions were more congested than usual.
7. Disparaging and demeaning
Downgrading the couple constantly is a form of violence that is so veiled. Because the perpetrators do not need to yell loudly or raise their voices to do this. For example, when you complain about busyness in the office. Couples may respond with scathing words like, "Are you staying up late again? Your workload is not much. In my office, such an affair must be completed in less than a day. "
8. Curse and insult
The habit of cursing and insulting is a type of violence whose impact is quite serious. For example, insulting a partner with harsh words like stupid, cheap, liar, or crazy.
9. Threatening
Threats are one type of verbal violence that can cause trauma. For example threatening to leave your partner if he does not obey his wishes. Or in severe cases, threatening to hit or hurt their partner.
10. Ruling
Demanding, prohibiting, limiting, and governing your partner may be your habit. In fact, this can make couples become depressed. Examples include prohibiting couples from working late at night or ordering couples to go home right now while working late at the office.
11. Defend yourself even if it's wrong
The person who always defends himself always refuses to be blamed, even though at that time he is wrong. If your partner is always defending himself and looking for reasons when talking to you, it could be that he has been committing violence against you.
12. yell
The most easily recognized type of verbal violence is yelling. Snapping, rebuking, or yelling at someone can indeed make the victim traumatized mentally. Remember, no one really deserves to be yelled at or shouted at even if it's wrong.
