Contents:
- Medical Video: 5 STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (Hindi) by Vivek Bindra हिंदी मोटिवेशनल विडियो
- What is forgiving therapy?
- How to forgive by applying this therapy?
- 1. Commitment and sure to want to release the burden on the heart
- 2. Express your feelings
- 3. Just focus on the future
- 4. Stop blaming others
- 5. Forgive them and forgive yourself
Medical Video: 5 STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (Hindi) by Vivek Bindra हिंदी मोटिवेशनल विडियो
A 2014 study published by the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology said that someone who is feeling, hatred, hurt, chronic revenge, or anything related to emotional wounds in the past can still be treated by doing "forgiving therapy".
What is forgiving therapy?
Forgiveness therapy is an exercise and a way to be sincere about emotional problems and injuries, which have been used since 1980. The practice of its use has increased until 1990, and can be adapted as part of any traditional psychotherapy, as long as it adheres to the requirements and recommended steps.
How to forgive by applying this therapy?
Nathaniel Wade, a professor of psychology at Iowa State University, examined 54 cases of psychotherapy with problems surrounding mental injury, traumatic injury, betrayal, even humiliation. Wade found good results when people who experienced the experience attended the "forgiving therapy" session carried out by him and his team.
The results obtained by the participants after attending the therapy were reducing anxiety, depression and even increasing life expectancy for the future. In addition, individual therapy is more effective than group therapy. The following are examples of steps that can be followed:
1. Commitment and sure to want to release the burden on the heart
The first way to forgive is the need to make a commitment to let go of all the problems that have kept your heart calm. In order not to revive the pain of the past, stop thinking about and telling the problem to others.
2. Express your feelings
You can still, really, to express the pain that is felt. Do it by using a high awareness limit. Usually, people vent feelings dammed using certain media, for example, telling stories with friends, writing diaries, or even just writing letters without the purpose of sending. Doing so will also help you understand yourself and the hurt you are feeling.
3. Just focus on the future
It does not feel good if the mind is constantly haunted by endless heartache. But, how long do you want to be like this? After all, people who hurt you don't necessarily think of your feelings too, right? You also need to be responsible for your own happiness, and don't expect it to come from other people. No one can restore time in past events, all you can do is make this day the best day of your life.
4. Stop blaming others
Stop thinking of yourself as a victimized protagonist. There must be memories of the past that stop by appearing at any time. Relax, all you have to do is acknowledge. By acknowledging that it has happened, the sign is that you have almost reached the stage of mercy.
This is the time to have the heart to be able to accept yourself to no longer blame anyone or circumstances. When you blame someone else, it means that your pain is your current identity. After that, don't forget to make yourself aware that you are in the current position, where you can almost conquer practice and ways to be sincere.
5. Forgive them and forgive yourself
We may not need to forget the bad behavior of others, but in fact each person has the right to be forgiven, and vice versa with you. Sometimes, many people are trapped in day pain, stubborn, and feel unable to forgive. In fact it is futile and self-defeating.
Forgiveness is not a sign that you are weak. On the contrary, this is just a real signal that you acknowledge that someone is hurting yourself, but you want to have progress in life without thinking about it again. Aside from being a way to be sincere, forgiveness also aims to empathize with others, and try to see things from their perspective.
