Contents:
- Medical Video: Women Tell Us Why They Didn’t Report Their Sexual Assault
- 1. "Why just tell me now?"
- 2. "Why don't you fight?"
- 3. "You just obey now!"
- 4. "Why did you go there? What kind of clothes do you wear at that time? "
- 5. "This is all the way."
- 6. "Other people experience more severe cases."
Medical Video: Women Tell Us Why They Didn’t Report Their Sexual Assault
Being a victim of rape or sexual violence is not desired. Rape is a sadistic thing, turns off a sense of self-confidence, and causes psychological and physical trauma to the victim. Rape victims experience stress, fear, anxiety that is mixed up. Therefore, if you become a victim listener, be careful what you say. It is precisely not to make the victim feel even worse. Here are six sentences that should not be spoken to the victim.
1. "Why just tell me now?"
This sentence can make the victim disappointed. Many trauma victims, it is very difficult to talk about what happened to other people. You can because you are afraid of being mistrusted, there is a feeling of guilt, a great sense of shame, and concern that the offender will retaliate. How dare the victim tell you, meaning the victim believes in you now. Don't think if the victim doesn't trust you or doesn't trust you.
Instead of saying this sentence, it is better to emphasize their positive strength towards the trauma they experience and appreciate their courage and honesty.
2. "Why don't you fight?"
Saying this sentence to the victim is very inappropriate and painful.
When the victim is attacked by the offender, the victim is shocked. They don't believe what happened. Sometimes rape victims can still fight even though they end up losing. However, there were also those who could not move in the slightest as if their bodies were not part of themselves anymore.
After the attack, the victim will have a great sense of remorse for himself. Why can't I fight? Why can't I fight harder? Regretfully dropped on himself because of the effect of the shock and immaturity they made.
Never give this question again to the victim because they are sick enough to face any regrets.
3. "You just obey now!"
When the victim tells you, do not immediately decide how the victim must overcome what happened. After experiencing sexual harassment, the victim experiences trauma that is beyond his control. Help the victim to control himself first.
If you are calmer, you may ask if there is anything you can do to help him, rather than dictate what the victim must do. You can give suggestions to victims, but not with coercion.
4. "Why did you go there? What kind of clothes do you wear at that time? "
Asking questions like this only adds to the negative stigma and guilt experienced by the victim.What's wrong with this is the culprit, not what the victim did or his clothes. You should instead believe the victim that this is not the victim's fault, don't even interrogate him like a criminal.
5. "This is all the way."
This sentence will actually make the victim feel he deserves a big disaster like this. In fact, of course no one deserves to be treated inhumanly.
If you believe this sentence, it's okay and it doesn't hurt. But save it first for yourself, not when the victim tells you then you say that.
6. "Other people experience more severe cases."
Giving this statement is inhuman to victims of rape and seems to underestimate their pain. Never compare what happened to the victim's life with what happened in other cases. Especially when the victim hears of a similar case it actually triggers his fear and anxiety to increase. Be careful not to bring up other rape cases to the victim.
