Contents:
- Medical Video: What Your Hands Say About Your Personality
- Why, man, shake hands?
- The way someone's handshake can show his personality
- Salaman is strong and fast
- A weak handshake
- Shaking hands without eye contact
- Over time greetings
Medical Video: What Your Hands Say About Your Personality
Shaking hands or handshakes are the most common form of greeting, both in the western and eastern parts of the world. However, actually everyone from every culture has a unique greeting method. What distinguishes each person's greeting method? Is it true that someone's shaking style can show his personality? To answer, see the following observations of psychologists and social researchers.
Why, man, shake hands?
According to Jesse Bering, a communication science expert from the University of Otago in New Zealand Scientific American, records of handshakes have appeared around the 12th century BC. Historical evidence has also proven that handshakes have occurred in Africa, India, Guatemala and Central Asia since the past.
In the past, shaking had several meanings. First, it shows the intention to make peace. Why so? The person who reaches out to shake hands wants to show that he is empty-handed and does not carry any weapons and does not have an infectious disease. Then, the up and down movement is defined as the process of discharging the weapon like a knife that could be hidden inside the sleeve of someone who shakes hands.
In addition, other meanings of greetings are a symbol of high trust in agreements or promises that have been made.
Although not exactly the same, it turns out that the shape of the shingles also exists in animals such as chimpanzees. However, there are quite distinct differences between the ways in which humans and chimpanzees shake.
The chimpanzee carried out by chimpanzees is done to show dominance or power. So, the chimpanzee who extended his hand first meant he was more powerful than the chimpanzee invited to shake hands.
The way someone's handshake can show his personality
It turns out that greetings can also show the personality or intent of the person who did it. This is seen from the grip, how long, to your body language when you shake hands.
Salaman is strong and fast
This type of salaman is done very hard and the two people who do it together have the intention to dominate. Lillian Glass, Ph.D., a body linguist from the United States (US) inside Reader's Digest, argues that this type of shaking is like a battle to show who is the most powerful.
A study by psychologists from the University of Alabama in the US also revealed a similar fact. Salaman with a strong hand grip, eye contact, and a long duration shows extroverted nature and is more open to new experiences.
People with such characteristics generally do have a greater tendency to become dominant or powerful figures.
A weak handshake
Still in research from the University of Alabama, people who shake hands very slowly and weakly tend to show personalities that are more easily anxious, nervous, or stressed. This mental condition is called neurosis.
However, according to Lillian Glass, a weak handshake can also indicate that you are not too interested or appreciative of those who shake hands with you. All you have in mind is to quickly finish making small talk or greeting.
Shaking hands without eye contact
Indeed there are some people who feel awkward when looking at others. Especially with foreigners. Therefore, if you often shake hands with no eye contact with other people, you might be someone who is not comfortable in social situations or even has social phobia.
However, once again the method of greeting can also mean different things. For example, you are actually lazy or not interested in shaking hands with someone else. So you don't necessarily have a social phobia, you're just not interested in chatting with people who shake hands with you.
Over time greetings
If shaking hands without eye contact shows awkwardness, shaking hands with eye contact for too long can indicate an aggressive nature. Likewise, if you shake someone's hand for too long.
According to body linguists, the exact duration of the greeting is no more than two seconds. Therefore, if you don't want to look too aggressive, you don't need to shake your hands too long.
