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Nyinyir has become a ingrained part of everyday life. Whether it's whispering nosy talking about office friends whose weight is getting more fertile after marriage, write a scathing comment on your favorite idol social media account about the choice of clothes that are not in accordance with "eastern customs", or open the disgrace of other women who are said to be "actors", aka fighters man.
Actually, what's the matter, behind this nasty phenomenon - and why is this habit more labeled as a "typical" trait of women, not men?
Why do fellow women like to cry?
A joint study from the University of Ottawa and McMaster University in Canada through an experiment found that almost all women felt threatened by other women who were superior (whether physical, material, or successful). As a result, the reactions they display as self-defense can vary, from putting on a sour face to verbal, even physical confrontation.
The researcher observed a difference in reactions that they displayed when met with a figure of a woman who had a totally different appearance - one was very sexy and the other could be said to be rather sexy and unattractive. In fact, these two different figures are the same woman.
The reactions of the women participating in the trial differed sharply in both cases. When met with sexy women, he was greeted with whispers and scorn and condescending views. This "socialization" exchange does not only occur between friends, but those who are unfamiliar with each other actually grow "friendship" through the cynical actions of this congregation.
After the woman left the room, some women laughed at her and made unpleasant comments about her appearance. Not surprisingly, when the same woman changed her "costume" to be unattractive, none of the women in the room raised their voices or reacted negatively.
The researcher believes that the reactions displayed by the women in the study reflect what happened in the real world. According to them, women tend to behave this way on the basis of following primitive instincts to try to survive by eliminating competition.
Nyinyir is an outlet for the competitive nature of ancient women
A review of the literature by Tracy Vaillancourt in 2013 found that women were attracted to each other in an attempt to elevate their own "values" - to make themselves look more attractive than their rivals.
Society and media indirectly form opinions that if you want to have a better mate and a more successful personal life, a woman must be beautiful and look like a supermodel. Women realize that in order to be seen and appreciated by the wider community (especially men), they are forced to fight with other women to get their prizes.
Departing from here, not a few women who take advantage of her beauty or hard work to get what she wants - of course there is nothing wrong with this. So it is not surprising that women who are not in the "superior" category become jealous and jealous.
The subconscious that evolved since ancient times encouraged women to protect themselves from physical harm, so that aggressiveness indirectly keeps us safe while still getting rid of competition. The difference is that ancient women were really involved in the act of killing to get their idol. Now, women fight at the speed of fighting and typing fingers on the keys of smart phone keyboards.
Nyinyir is a manifestation of the confidence of vulnerable women
Competitive and self-confidence are two characteristics that must be present and most favored for every man, even when he was a child. Ironically, even though women instinctively also have these two traits, competition and self-confidence are often seen as unnecessary traits in women.
Boys sharpen these two important characteristics through sports and academic competition. This is what makes men feel more comfortable when involved in a competition. They see victory as only a small part of the game and often do not feel guilty seeing their rivals lose, so it is not surprising that they can still maintain friendships after the competition. That is to say, boys see competition as an adhesive of solidarity between their peers.
It is inversely proportional to women. They are educated not to compete or try to outperform the others, because this is the nature of supremacy. Good women are obedient and not in installments, he said. In the end, in situations where the competition is present but aggression must not or cannot be channeled into a positive action, this trait becomes blocked and poisones the body.
As a result, what should have been a healthy competition turned into a nasty fight from a mixture of guilt and shame because it was secretly jealous and wanted other women to fail - as well as to avoid revenge. So, what seems like hostility between women is actually to cover up feelings of worry, anxiety, and fear of success, others.
Interestingly, in friendship with men, where men and women often compete in different arenas, this competition issue usually does not come into play. Women instinctively do not regard men as threats or vulnerable and sensitive parties like other female colleagues - more than a "glorified" figure as a place to seek approval for their identity. Therefore, it is less common to find women who are nosy in men. Of course not all women must have a squeaky nature. Well, are you one of them?
