Contents:
- Medical Video: Secret Of A Long Lasting Relationship by Gaur Gopal Das
- Already broken up, how come, still want to return?
- Here's how to improve relationships after breaking up
- 1. Make sure the previous problem has been completed
- 2. Don't bring up the previous problem again
- 3. Open with what is felt
Medical Video: Secret Of A Long Lasting Relationship by Gaur Gopal Das
A love affair is not only present in a beautiful story like a fairy tale. Sometimes, you must be willing to swallow the bitter parting for one reason or another. After breaking up too, there is no possibility that the reason is still love to be your reinforcer to want to return with the ex-lover. In fact there are many, you know, couples who succeed to get to the level of marriage because they know how to improve the right relationship. What are you curious about? Come on, look at the following tips!
Already broken up, how come, still want to return?
The decision to end a relationship that has been fostered for so long must certainly be carefully considered. Similarly, the choice to reconcile with a partner after breaking up, is certainly not as easy as turning the palm of the hand.
You may have found someone or yourself who said, "I've already been comfortable with him" or "Maybe it will be difficult, bro, find one who understands me, if not him. This is actually normal, because humans will actually look for the best for him now and in the long run.
Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, a psychology lecturer at St. Francis College in New York, also added that maybe you would choose to stay away and look for a replacement that is expected to be better. But it is difficult to deny, you do not find what is sought from the figure of the person because of feelings and thoughts that are still difficult to turn away from former lovers.
Finally, opening a new sheet with the former is considered the best way after going through the complicated "drama" of romance.
Here's how to improve relationships after breaking up
If indeed you are thinking of reversing with the former, of course you will think how to improve the relationship that has previously ended. Well, after successfully convincing yourself to want to re-knit love with a partner, which incidentally as a former, try to apply how to improve this relationship so that the previous mistakes do not happen again.
1. Make sure the previous problem has been completed
Many people who are trapped in a relationship break up, until then they really separate because they are unable to fix the previous problem. It is like, they only have the capital "desperate" to reconcile with the former without completing the conflict that triggered the breakdown of the previous relationship.
Of course you don't want this to happen, right? Therefore, one way to improve relations when reversing with the former is to ensure that the conflict that has been completed is at its root.
Take for example, if you were previously too focused on pursuing a career to seem indifferent to the presence of a partner. Now try to be smarter in dividing your life priorities. Even so, if you are too demanding your partner is ready whenever you need.
In fact, he also has other interests to do, right? So, try to better understand and be able to put yourself in the best possible position.
2. Don't bring up the previous problem again
There are no more words, "It turns out that you haven't changed before, yes, it's still selfish" or "If it's not because of you, maybe we used tonot will break up, "and other statements that seem to corner the couple's mistakes.
Instead of making your love affair better, constantly bringing up the bitter past will trigger other bickering that shouldn't be there. Preferably, make the first problem as a valuable lesson by taking good lessons.
Whatever conflicts are present in the new relationship after returning later, just think of it as a new problem without having to carry around the past. Hold the commitment you have negotiated before deciding to return with the ex. If necessary, remember what is the reason that you can get to this stage.
3. Open with what is felt
Naturally, if you have fear if the previous problem will repeat itself. This is what might make you always try to cover up what you feel because you worry that the relationship after feedback will not run smoothly as expected.
But it's actually useless you think of the problem morning, noon, night, without trying to share it with your partner. Because after all, you are not alone in building this relationship. There are still couples who are ready to be listeners of all your complaints.
Don't just hope the couple will understand by themselves without a definite explanation. Because it is not impossible, the hobby of storing ideas from this partner will actually cause your relationship to run aground like before.
