Contents:
- Medical Video: What a guy who’s having a first date thinks | Love Playlist | Season2 - EP.07 (Click CC for ENG sub)
- Various causes of PDKT are more interesting than dating relationships
- 1. You always want new things
- 2. There are rarely problems when PDKT
- 3. Still want to find new people
- 4. Need attention, not the person
- 5. Not ready to be loyal
Medical Video: What a guy who’s having a first date thinks | Love Playlist | Season2 - EP.07 (Click CC for ENG sub)
Many people say that the PDKT period is an approach, more beautiful and challenging than when you are dating. This is why, many people prefer to stay in the PDKT period instead of continuing to dating relationships. So, what's the cause? Find out through the following reviews.
Various causes of PDKT are more interesting than dating relationships
Reporting from Men's Health, according to Damon L. Jacobs, a relationship expert and writer Rational Relating: The Smart Way to Stay Sane in the World of Love, many people are more comfortable in PDKT than going to dating relationships. Jacob said that there were 5 important things that caused it, including the following:
1. You always want new things
At the beginning of feeling fall in love, your brain will release some chemicals at once, including dopamine, adrenaline, epinephrine, and norepinephrine. All these hormones are natural hormones that trigger a sense of happiness and euphoria in you.
These hormones often appear when you are in a PDKT with someone. This is why, you will continue to look for new things so that these hormones continue to flow within you to supply happiness. So do not be surprised if PDKT is more memorable and interesting for most people.
According to Jacob, when you switch status to dating relationship, simultaneously the presence of this hormone tends to become chaotic. As a result, the feeling of happiness that previously appeared will slowly disappear. In fact, over time, you will feel the romance fades with time.
2. There are rarely problems when PDKT
If you see from romantic films like teenagers today, the storyline is certain about conflict of love and success in overcoming them together. Most films end with feelings of happiness. Yes, it's that simple. But make no mistake, this can affect the way you think.
There aren't many films that tell how two people who have a relationship can maintain their togetherness for years. This is because long-term relationships are considered not too attractive, full of conflict, and tend to be boring.
Vulnerability is rarely fulfilled by conflicts. How not, you and your idol's heart do not have the status of dating. It is different if you and the person they are dating and feel mutually binding so that they are vulnerable to conflict.
Well, this could be one of the reasons why PDKT is more beautiful than dating relationships. Afraid if after dating later you and your partner are often hit by conflict and become bored quickly.
3. Still want to find new people
The desire to continue in the PDKT period rather than move on to a dating relationship could be because you are still in the search phase. Like a proverb while diving drinking water, you establish an approach with the idol of the heart while looking for other figures who might be able to complete your life.
Actually, this is not wrong to do as long as you and your partner have not been bound in a marriage relationship that requires loyalty to each other.
But remember, this habit actually drags you into the form of an early affair that can have an impact on your love relationships going forward. If you are suitable with him, why look for a new one?
4. Need attention, not the person
Not a few people only use a relationship just to fulfill their emotional desires. That is, you could be too comfortable getting attention and affection so far than the presence of him
If you have become a girlfriend, it is usually as small as any problem in the relationship can affect the amount of attention to each other. Well, it could be that you are not ready to establish a dating relationship for fear of not getting attention from your partner in the future. As a result, you choose to be in the PDKT period rather than dating.
5. Not ready to be loyal
The presumption of the PDKT period is more beautiful than this dating relationship can arise because you are not ready to give full love and attention only to your partner. In addition, you may also not be ready to work with your partner in building a healthy relationship.
Basically, there is nothing wrong with this. The most important thing is to discuss and communicate about this relationship with your heart's worship. Speak from heart to heart to determine the priority of each relationship.
Ask yourself again, do you really want a lasting relationship or just want to be limited to that approach? Consider again whether this approach will be comparable to the goals of both of you.
