Contents:
- Various myths of sexual violence that need to be eradicated
- 1. Victims always wear minimal or sexy clothes
- 2. Men may not be victims
- 3. Rape is not possible in marriage
- 4. The victim does not fight because he really wants to
- 5. The culprit must be a stranger
If noted, most cases of sexual violence are more often experienced by women than men. Indeed, quoting Komnas Perempuan data, on average there are around 35 women who are victims of sexual abuse every day in Indonesia. However, that does not mean that men cannot experience it. The many myths of rampant sexual violence in our society need to be eradicated because it is very detrimental to their victims. What are the myths of sexual violence that need to be rectified?
Various myths of sexual violence that need to be eradicated
This is what makes victims feel embarrassed and tend to blame themselves. As a result, the victim experienced deep trauma, depression, until he wanted to commit suicide.
Therefore, let's conclude the following various myths of sexual violence by knowing the facts
1. Victims always wear minimal or sexy clothes
The clothes worn by general victims were used as an excuse to devote the unfortunate incident. "Yes he deserves to be raped, wong the clothes are just so sexy! "Have you heard, right, a comment like this?
Not infrequently also comments cornered about victim's clothes are used by law enforcement officers when processing cases of sexual violence.
People still think that sexy clothes are the same as free sex invitations, "The clothes, really, are open, inviting lust!". This argument even further confirms the old-fashioned assumption that women should be blamed for their own "fate".
In fact, all forms of sexual harassment and violence occur on the depravity of the perpetrators themselves. Clothing is not a determining factor. The action was wrong of the perpetrator. Wearing clothes that are comfortable and closed does not necessarily guarantee that you are safer from acts of sexual violence.
2. Men may not be victims
Sexual violence is indeed more prevalent in women and carried out by men. That's why you might think that it's impossible for these two roles to be exchanged. But in reality there are men out there who are victims.
The assumption that men are impossible and cannot be victims of sexual violence is a danger, you know! This myth can make those who really have experienced it reluctant to seek help for fear of being thought to be weak and eventually become permanent trauma.
It needs to be straightened out again that men and women alike can become perpetrators or victims. Women may be perpetrators of sexual violence targeting men, or occur between men.
Factors that encourage someone to commit a crime are not based on gender or gender.
3. Rape is not possible in marriage
Having sex between husband and wife is a natural thing. As a result, many people assume that when married, sex is certainly done on the basis of liking.
Eits, wait a minute. This myth of sexual violence needs to be straightened out. Even though it is still strange in the ear, rape in a marriage might occur. Having sex because of coercion or threats, even with your own partner, is tantamount to rape.
Basically, sex must be approved by husband and wife. No one has the right to force or threaten to have sex if one rejects it. Remember, your husband or wife is not an object of sexual gratification that you can master at any time.
4. The victim does not fight because he really wants to
The community considers that the attitude of the victim who does not resist shows that the victim tends to enjoy and want to have sex with the perpetrator. Yes, the perpetrators and victims are considered to do so on the basis of liking.
In fact, this is one of the myths of sexual violence that you have to throw away from now on. Everyone has a different response when accepting sexual violence. There are those who dare to fight, some actually choose to remain silent because they are afraid of being hurt by the perpetrators.
The attitude of victims who do not fight does not mean they want it. This actually indicates that the victim is overwhelmed with fear. Especially if the victim is threatened with sharp weapons. So it is not surprising that most rape victims do not resist and prefer to be silent.
This condition is called tonic inhibition, which is the physiological response of the body that makes a person experience temporary physical paralysis so that he cannot move or fight when feeling scared or threatened. This is also what makes victims of sexual violence vulnerable to PTSD trauma and severe depression in the coming months.
5. The culprit must be a stranger
Many people assume that the rape or sexual violence is definitely a stranger or an unknown person at all. For this reason, many cases of sexual violence occur on lonely roads and usually at night.
Again, anyone can commit acts of sexual violence. Likewise with the closest relatives that you have never expected before.
Reporting from BBC Indonesia, Chairperson of the Subcommittee on Community Participation of the National Commission on Violence Against Women, Mariana Amiruddin, revealed that more than 60 percent of cases of sexual violence occurred in the home environment with perpetrators of their own fathers, uncles, siblings or husbands.
