Contents:
- Medical Video: Tips for the Spouse with the Lower Sex Drive
- If one sex desire is higher ...
- 1. Joint masturbation
- 2. Longer heating
- 3. Determine the specific time to make love
- If each of you has a different favorite sex position ...
- 1. Try a new love style
- 2. Compromising
- If sex desire arises at different times ...
- 1. Start slowly
- 2. Find the right position
Medical Video: Tips for the Spouse with the Lower Sex Drive
Sex with loved ones should feel natural and enjoyable. Eits, but really that easy? In fact, two people who love each other do not necessarily have the same sexual desire, you know. For example your partner likes a pretty extreme lovemaking style while you prefer a comfortable position. This certainly can interfere with the intimacy of the couple. Well, here's how to deal with couples who have different sexual desires.
If one sex desire is higher ...
You and your partner really enjoy sex with each other. However, unfortunately one of you has a greater sexual desire. As a result, one must feel frustrated because his passion is insatiable while the other feels guilty because he cannot fulfill the same passion. Here's how to overcome it.
1. Joint masturbation
If you are not interested in making love, it does not mean you cannot satisfy your partner's desires. You can caress or kiss your partner while he masturbates before you. That way, your partner's desire is still satisfied without having to really have sex with you.
2. Longer heating
Sometimes your partner needs to warm up or foreplay the longer before his passion arose. Try to tease the couple or invite them to make out through touch and hug just for a long time. Don't immediately invite him to have sex. By starting slowly, a partner who was less eager had finally become hot.
3. Determine the specific time to make love
In order to get the right meeting point, try to agree on a special time to make love. For example, every weekend or every three days. The impression is indeed less spontaneous if it must be determined. However, communicating like this is very effective for couples whose sexual urges are different.
When you get used to it, take a long time to make an appointment to find the right time to make love. So you and your partner do not need to worry or be ashamed to talk about it again.
If each of you has a different favorite sex position ...
What if you and your partner have a different favorite sex position? For example couples prefer positions doggy style while you prefer missionaries. Relax, you can apply the tips below.
1. Try a new love style
Instead you are both too focused on the style of making each other's favorite and become noisy, vary your sex position both of you every week. In addition to being fairer, you and your partner can also continue to try out various types of new positions that you might like.
2. Compromising
Couples who have different sexual desires do have to learn to compromise. You both have to be honest about the differences in tastes and middle ground. For example, if you make love to your favorite position today. Means the next opportunity is the couple's turn.
Set clear boundaries between positions that can still be tolerated and which ones you really don't like. Do not forget to explain also the reason so that couples do not hurt.
If sex desire arises at different times ...
This problem is quite common, you know. Usually men are more passionate in the morning while women prefer to make love at night. To get around this difference, try the following tricks.
1. Start slowly
According to a therapist and clinical sexologist from the United States, Tammy Nelson Ph.D., you can slowly stimulate your partner's desire. For example, by praising your partner, loving hugs, and warming up. Remember, the key is to relax and relax. Don't be too passionate to get your partner to have sex.
2. Find the right position
Your partner may be lazy to have sex at night because he is tired. Or he is not interested in having sex in the morning because he feels not fresh. So, the trick is to find a sex position that can make the couple as comfortable as possible.
If your partner is a little tired, make sure you are in the top position. Whether it's a missionary (man above) or woman on top and cowgirl (women on Top). While if in the morning your partner is worried that he hasn't brushed his teeth and washed his face, penetrated from behind like doggy style can be the solution. You and your partner do not need to face each other while complaining love.
