Contents:
- Medical Video: HOW TO ORGASM FAST! (For men & women) - Sex Ed with Tara
- Men and women's bodies are designed differently to reach orgasm
- Male orgasm is driven by instinctive instincts
- Differences in body image problems between men and women
Medical Video: HOW TO ORGASM FAST! (For men & women) - Sex Ed with Tara
In general, women need 10 to 20 minutes for one orgasm after sexual intercourse begins, while male orgasm can be achieved in just 2 to 10 minutes. Plus, only about 25 percent of women can reach climax while more than 90 percent of men always reach orgasm every time they have sex.
Actually, what causes this "injustice"? Why is male orgasm faster and easier to achieve than female orgasm? Here's the explanation.
Men and women's bodies are designed differently to reach orgasm
The form of orgasm in women is still a mystery, and sometimes there are fears and anxieties that haunt when welcoming what you have never known before. This fear and concern can prevent women from reaching orgasm.
Orgasm is a personal experience and everyone experiences orgasms differently from one another. In addition, the intensity of each orgasm in women can also be different. Sometimes, an orgasm can feel so strong that it makes you feel overwhelmed. At other times, you may not feel anything other than a small sensation in your body, which you might not even realize.
There is a dual control mechanism in our brain that works together to trigger orgasm. One of these mechanisms is a sexual accelerator (imagine the gas pedal like in a car), which responds to erotic stimuli and tells our body to get more. The other is a protective sexual decelerator, which acts as a brake to suppress excessive sexual desire or turn it off completely.
Basically, the mechanism of reaching orgasm in men and women is the same, namely the flow of blood from the heart to the intimate organs - penile erection for men, and the clitoris erection for women. But to achieve it requires a different effort. In men, this sexual pedal is more sensitive while the brakes are less sensitive.
Orgasm in men that is easier is generally based on hypersensitivity from sexual stimulation that is too intense. That is why as long as men can erect, a few minutes of sexual stimulation will lead to climax and ejaculation.The opposite of women. Because sexual brakes in women work more sensitive, women need a little longer and painstaking stimulation before they can begin to get excited.
Well, what triggers the work of gas and brake will depend on many factors. For example below.
Male orgasm is driven by instinctive instincts
The ease of reaching orgasm in men is more likely to be more or less driven by unconscious biological instincts to reproduce. Men can have intercourse with many women. If done at the right time and he is lucky enough to have strong sperm, he can impregnate one of them. The more women he "invites" to having sex, the greater the chance for him to have offspring who inherit the best genes.
It is different from women who instinctively tend to unconsciously choose to wait for a single candidate of the many available, to have offspring from him. Although women can also have sex with many men, the supply of female eggs has limited capacity and its own expiration date. So, there is a "biological necessity" for the woman to make sure she has sex until her partner ejaculates every time. Because if a woman climaxes first, there will be a possibility that the lovemaking session ends too soon before the man has the opportunity to fertilize his egg cell.
Differences in body image problems between men and women
Instead of being driven by biology, orgasm in men is unconsciously used as an important benchmark of what should be and happens in a sexual activity to indicate that sexual contact is successful and satisfying. Simply put, orgasm in men must be prioritized so that the lovemaking session is practically successful while sexual activity that aims to produce orgasm in women is considered a foreplay - an added bonus.
In fact, a study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine belonging to the research team from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction at Indiana University actually found that women who have sex with women (lesbian couples) have more orgasmic experiences than heterosexual women, almost as much as like men who have sex with women. There are also many women who are not troubled to reach their own orgasm through masturbation. They actually report it is more difficult to reach orgasm when they make love with their male partner.
The stereotype of society that views women as merely an "object" of male satisfaction tends to impose attention on the woman's physical appearance, not her feelings. This then raises an anxiety or concern about how he looks from the point of view of his partner, which decreases the chances of women to experience orgasm. In the case of lesbian couples or female masturbation above, they are not worried about their physical appearance but rather an urge to give satisfaction to their partner (or satisfaction).
