Contents:
- Medical Video: 12 Year Old Gets Caught Flirting On The Phone !
- What to do when you catch a child watching porn
- 1. As much as possible, neutralize your mood and mind
- 2. Make the opportunity to give advice
- 3. Find out information about how, when, and with whom children watch porn
- 4. Explain that actual sexual activities are not like those in pornographic films
- 5. Explain the risk of watching porn, but don't exaggerate
Medical Video: 12 Year Old Gets Caught Flirting On The Phone !
What do you do when you find your child watching porn or seeing other indecent things? Shocked and dizzy, right? Get away from panic and other distant negative thoughts. It's normal, because it's a sign that your child has a growing hormone and lust. Curiosity and curiosity have also begun to appear related to gender differences. If you still feel confused and panic, it's good to read and read the article below carefully.
What to do when you catch a child watching porn
1. As much as possible, neutralize your mood and mind
Believe me, you and your child may be just as embarrassed when they both catch and get caught watching porn. For you parents, the first step to take is to be calm. Try to be a "cool" parent in front of a child. Remember, children watching porn are not top-level criminal actions that require emotion and invective to the suspect.
Respond casually (because of course you have also watched pornographic films, have you not?), Don't make children feel judged. With your relaxed reaction doesn't mean you don't care. This is a good step in how you can start "interrogating" children. That way, your child will be open and you can enter the world.
2. Make the opportunity to give advice
If you panic and are shocked, the sign is you have not provided knowledge about sex to children, because if you do, you will not panic too much. Basically, parents are obliged to provide education to children about sex from an early age. But not all parents are able to explain things about sex. Moreover, the shame to discuss it makes the reason not to provide early sex education to children.
Why is this "caught" can't be the right time to start a conversation? It's good if boys who watch porn, give the task of asking that question to father or other male figures, as well as girls. It aims to be comfortable in language and provide knowledge to children, so that children understand and feel comfortable with your invitation to discuss.
3. Find out information about how, when, and with whom children watch porn
You must ask this. If you have taken over the atmosphere and can continue with a question and answer, you should ask the following questions:
- When was the first time a child watched porn? Ask with positive and subtle language, control your emotions and shame when asking. The child's answer to this question can provide information that the time period said (the first time watching porn) can be the answer to how you behave. Is the child too early to know the thing about porn, and is it normal for him to know that.
- Who does he usually watch porn with? This is important, people who are used to watching porn with children can be the first to force children with porn. There are three possibilities, your child will mention the name of the person, your child will only answer him or herself to watch alone (your child is too shy to tell you), or your child answers "with friends at school." All of the answers above must be appreciated properly, respecting honesty can last until this stage. Give advice, how to watch porn is better done (alone or busy, depending on your perception). Say also not to watch porn where the atmosphere is crowded, or even not to let your child invite his friends to watch the same thing.
- How did he get the porn movie or thing? This is most important, this source is your guide to controlling and monitoring your child's movements for things that might be your concern. If the child gets from a website on the internet, this means that you have a lack of supervision and attention to the child. If the child can source from friends or other people, start monitoring your child from the side of their relationships and friends.
4. Explain that actual sexual activities are not like those in pornographic films
Explain that what is seen in pornographic films is just fiction, sex that is actually not exactly what he watched. Porn films are made only based on entertainment factors. Tell them that their genitals cannot be used for any person (preventing children from imagining free sex). Tell how important sex is when the right time and age, after marriage, for example.
5. Explain the risk of watching porn, but don't exaggerate
Explain that watching porn too often will cause the brain to become damaged and thus it will turn into a "not healthy" person. Also say if children often watch porn and their friends know this, your child will have a bad label in the eyes of his friends. Because indeed people who are known to watch porn too often, usually get bad stigma in their environment.
