Contents:
- Medical Video: Tara Simon EAI: Xfactor, singing and coaching! (EN subtitles)
- Forcing children to take part in extracurricular activities and tutoring makes him not familiar with his own family
- Too high expectations of parents also keep children away from family
- So, what should parents do?
Medical Video: Tara Simon EAI: Xfactor, singing and coaching! (EN subtitles)
Every parent will certainly try to always give the best for his baby. Some even enrolled their children to take part in various extracurricular activities, tutoring, sports clubs, and private courses such as music lessons or foreign language courses to make them good achievers. All this is done so that their children have a better chance of success in the future.
Even so, it's a good idea to consider carefully before registering a child for many additional activities outside of school time. When a child is too preoccupied with activities outside the home, he will be further away from his family so that it can adversely affect family harmony.
Forcing children to take part in extracurricular activities and tutoring makes him not familiar with his own family
Following extracurricular activities after school, there are many benefits. In addition to adding insight and honing his interests and talents, these various activities can help him expand the scope of friendships with new people. Even so, do not let the child feel very overwhelmed with myriad activities so that they put their families down.
D. Sharon Wheeler as the study researcher published in the Taylor and Francis Journal Sport, Education, and Society explained that the risk of most participating extracurricular activities would be heavier than the benefits if too forced.
The research was conducted by interviewing 50 families from 12 elementary schools in northern and western England. About 88 percent of all children attend activities outside of school hours up to 4-5 times a week, while 58 percent follow more than one extracurricular activity starting at night.
Wheeler and his team found that elementary school children who take extracurricular activities and extra-school activities up to 4-5 times a week, even late at night, make them easily exhausted and unfocused so they rarely spend quality time with family.
Too high expectations of parents also keep children away from family
Suniya Luthar, a psychology professor at Columbia, argues that the number of extracurricular activities that children participate in is not the only source of problems.
The problem starts when parents oversee all children's activities excessively and place very high expectations on them - "Basically you have to get good results!" Or "Within 3 months, you should be able to master the techniques [sports / music / etc] that new! "and so on.
Heavy pressure and high expectations to always be successful in academic and non-academic fields have the potential to endanger the development and welfare of children. Over time, this also keeps children away from interactions with their closest family members because they feel terrorized and treated like robots.
Dr. Luthar and Polly Young-Eisendrath, two clinical psychologists and co-authors of the bookThe Self-Esteem Trap, agree that too much requires the child to carry out various activities after school can give problems to the child's life.
Because, when the age of the child has not yet reached 11-12 years, the child is learning to start developing himself. Well, taking part in too many activities beyond the limits of their abilities can be risky to disrupt the child's natural development. Like an electronic device that is too charged with heavy work, the device will eventually be damaged. Similarly, the condition of the little one.
So, what should parents do?
Actually it is legitimate to enroll children in various types of extracurricular activities to hone them into a superior person.
What is more necessary for parents to pay attention to is where the natural limit is not to harm the health of the child, as well as the relationship with you and other family members. Do not let the child be too busy and have trouble attending tutoring here and there until they no longer want to care about the condition of their own family.
Before deciding on these lessons for children, it's best to align your desires with what the child wants or interest. If the child is not interested in piano lessons, but you consider it important, do not force it so that it can become a seed for future fights. Quoted from the page of The New York Times, Dr. Michael Thompson, a clinical psychologist and book writer The Pressured Child, advise you as a parent to just follow the wishes and interests of the child so that he does not feel forced and burdened when living it.
Also, try to always spend and schedule quality family gatherings, at least every 2-3 days. Don't let your child feel far away from his family as a result of being too busy with the activities he is engaged in.
You can do it outside the home by going to the playground or at home by just watching movies, cooking together, to confide in each other.
