Contents:
- Medical Video: Use this Method to Get Your Child to Listen and Behave
- Why is my child so difficult to manage?
- How to deal with stubborn children
- 1. Listen to opinions or desires
- 2. Don't force it, make a choice
- 3. Don't be stubborn in front of children
- 4. Let children learn from experience
Medical Video: Use this Method to Get Your Child to Listen and Behave
Being a parent is not easy. Especially when you have to face the will of a stubborn child. Instead of having to fight each other later and pull the veins which ended up in drama, respond with the following smart way.
Why is my child so difficult to manage?
Stubborn and unruly nature is actually a way for your child to learn about freedom and the limits of acceptable behavior and those that don't. When your child does something, for example he doesn't want to take a shower or doesn't want to sleep, he will see what your reaction is to determine whether he can do this or not.
Another example is when he wants to eat something but you don't allow it. They can cry whining to the tantrum so that their wishes are fulfilled. Child's whining and tantrums are the way to communicate with you to ask, "Why, I can't take that snack?"
Stubbornness can also be a way of showing you that he already feels he can do things himself. Toddler children do tend to be more active and impatient, so they don't need the help of others.
Although it is a natural part of a child's growth and development, stubbornness should not continue until he grows up.
How to deal with stubborn children
Facing a stubborn child does require more patience than usual, but there is no need to pull the veins or let them pinch and pinch. Wrong-wrong, children can be more defiant.
The following things you can do when dealing with unruly children.
1. Listen to opinions or desires
Once your little one starts to insist on getting his wishes, for example, not wanting to sleep at night, take a breath and listen to the reason. If it's not okay, you immediately forbid it to stay up late, children will tend to immediately argue and get angry.
Don't immediately forbid or not allow him to sleep at night, but ask calmly "Why don't you want to sleep now, deck?" If he answers because he still wants to watch his favorite cartoon, you can try to remind him with a firm tone and clear reasons like, " It's already too late, you know. Tomorrow, right, you have to go to school. "
Children will also learn that you do not approve of their behavior because indeed what they are doing is not right, not only because "they just can't".
2. Don't force it, make a choice
If you don't succeed in persuading him, you cannot force him to sleep. This will make children increasingly argue and worsen the atmosphere. You need to pay attention to word choices, tone of voice, or the action you are using.
Instead, sit next to it, show your interest in the TV broadcasts they watch. When you show concern, your child will respond that you value what he wants.
After a while, then submit a choice for the child. For example, the choice to stay up late or give a challenge to get up early for 10 consecutive days to get a prize.
Stubborn children are usually more active and like challenges. It can also be dealt with by offering games such as racing who gets the fastest to the bedroom and changing pajamas.
3. Don't be stubborn in front of children
Children learn from what they see everyday. So if in your daily life you show stubbornness towards even the smallest things, don't be surprised if your child also has such qualities.
Almost every parent must have faced a stubborn child who wept roaring so that his wishes were obeyed. For example, because they don't want to share their toys with friends. Most parents tend to get mad immediately "Stop crying!" Or (God forbid) "If you don't stop crying, daddy hits, huh!"
Instead of being angry and threatening which can make the atmosphere even hotter, it's better to say well like, "Daddy knows you are angry, but if you cry and I don't know what you want. Try slowly saying to Daddy. "That way, children will learn that sulking will not make their desires fulfilled, but rather by talking well.
When he managed to convey that he did not want to share his favorite toys, you could deliberately play together with the child and the toys. Then you can pretend to borrow the toy politely.
When your little one tries to grab a toy from your hand, succumb to it and keep the child playing together calmly. Show that the toy can actually be used together. Also show that by lending toys, your little one can also exchange toys for his friends so that his choices are more diverse
You can also give the toy back to the child with conditions such as, "Yes you can, but later when it's finished returning it to you, yes." That way, the child learns how to borrow something and what to do if someone tries to take something from him.
4. Let children learn from experience
Children are often difficult to manage. For example, when you do not allow children to play water because they will slip. Banning it through words sometimes doesn't work enough, maybe you need to give it a little freedom so they can understand what you want to convey through experience. This will give an important lesson so that he will not repeat the same thing.
Children need rules to stay disciplined. This teaches children to know what consequences they must get from good or bad behavior. Make punishments appropriately and wisely, which makes children realize that what they are doing is wrong, especially to be stubborn. You can punish him by reducing hours of playing or watching TV or by giving him the task of clearing his own toys.
