Contents:
- Medical Video: Use this Method to Get Your Child to Listen and Behave
- Things to do to deal with unruly children
- 1. There is no harm in saying "YES"
- 2. Give an explanation
- 3. Be a parent, not a friend
- The wrong way to discipline an unruly child
- 1. Punish
- 2. Don't lie
- 3. Don't force your will
- 4. Don't scare
Medical Video: Use this Method to Get Your Child to Listen and Behave
"Don't say it!", "Don't take it carelessly!", "Come on, work on the peer before bobo" - how many of your advice and invitations are in your right ear and out of your child's left ear? How many times have you been back and forth punishing your child for not wanting to hear what his mother's father said, but he didn't deter?
Every parent has a style of communicating with her children; some are aggressive, passive, gentle, assertive, and others. But without realizing it, the method of parent and child interaction will affect the ability and willingness of children to listen to what parents say, which is reflected in the way children talk to their fathers. Therefore, as a parent, you need to be careful in communicating with your child. Because if not, it will make your child more difficult to manage.
If you are currently running out of ways to deal with unruly children, here are some things you can and should not do.
Things to do to deal with unruly children
1. There is no harm in saying "YES"
Often you immediately say "no" when your child asks for something strange as a sign of absolute prohibition, which cannot be contested. Unconsciously, this can make children more rebellious against the wishes of parents because they feel restrained.
Try to offer another alternative. For example, if your child wants to scribble on the wall, then find out first why they want to scribble. Then suggest an alternative that can be accepted by them, for example providing a picture book, canvas, and others. This will show that you listen to their desires and strengthen their trust in you and make you a "friend" rather than an "opponent".
2. Give an explanation
Children who are unruly sometimes don't mean they want to fight what parents say. They may just not understand why you forbid him from doing so. For example, you want to ban it from rain on the field. Instead of directly sternly saying "You can't, play, try it!" And lock the fence of the house, explain to him if he plays rain-rain "it will catch a cold later, even though tomorrow is the school day." Also listen to your child's response or suggestion . This will help children think logically and get used to listening to you.
3. Be a parent, not a friend
Positioning yourself as a friend is not wrong, however, in the condition of a child who is difficult to manage you need to act as a parent, not as a friend. This is done to teach them about discipline, and set boundaries that can instill confidence when they learn to live life.
The wrong way to discipline an unruly child
1. Punish
Punishing is often used as an excuse to discipline unruly children. In fact, discipline and punishment are two different things. Discipline is a means for parents to be actively involved in children's lives to help shape their moral character and personality. While punishment is an act that functions as revenge.
So, teaching children to discipline does not always have to give them punishment. Find out the reasons behind their behavior, and take appropriate action to improve their emotional state. After all, punishing a child when they are being difficult is set even more makes them feel uncomfortable and rebellious.
2. Don't lie
Even though it looks trivial, however, small lies like, "toys are not sold", "yes tomorrow they go away", and other white lies, can affect the attitude of children who do not want to hear your words. After all, your children are not as innocent as you might think. They certainly know when you are lying and breaking promises.
For a child, breaking the 'promise' can erode trust and eventually they will stop listening to what you say.
3. Don't force your will
If you want your child to listen to you, then you must first start listening to them. Don't put them in a situation they can't handle just because you feel they "should" do it. This makes your child uncomfortable and feels his desire is not heard by his parents.
4. Don't scare
The prohibitions given are often in the form of "Don't eat sweets, then the teeth are hollow" or "Don't play maghrib-maghrib, later kidnapped by kuntilanak!" And other prohibitions. In fact, frightening children because of 'terror' that you create yourself can make children lose the source of information they trust, which makes them unwilling to listen to your words again.
