Contents:
- Medical Video: 10 Trick Questions your friends will ALWAYS get Wrong!! (with answers)
- Nosy comments and questions make you hot? Eliminate this way
- "Have you got a boyfriend yet?" Or "When will you get married?"
- "When do you have children?"
- "Where do you work?"
Medical Video: 10 Trick Questions your friends will ALWAYS get Wrong!! (with answers)
Gathering events such as family gathering, weddings, and school reunions can be a pleasant meeting place. On the other hand, not a few people who are reluctant to exchange news because they feel uncomfortable having to answer a series of nosy questions from all directions. Indeed, the intention might be just lip service, but if you keep repeating it, after a while your ears can get hot too. Don't hurry up first when you hear the comment "When did you get married?" For the millionth time. Answer the nosy question with these smart ways, so that you still look friendly
Nosy comments and questions make you hot? Eliminate this way
You were asked ...
"Have you got a boyfriend yet?" Or "When will you get married?"
One or two times asked like this maybe you can respond with a calm smile or maybe a little silly - "May ... Meybi (red: Maybe) yes maybe no" or "Got it, Tan ... Only he is still busy dating other people first."
But when you are constantly bombarded with the same questions, even though you are comfortable living alone, this nosy question can make a bad mood for a long time. Especially if you are also surrounded by friends and relatives who already have their own trailer.
Questions like "when are you married" or "Already have a boyfriend?" Can reveal so many things about the questioner. Their intentions may be good, whether they want to introduce you to friends or relatives who are considered potential, or they ask because they are interested in you but don't know how to approach you. So, just respond with a relaxed and pleasant but firm tone, "Why is that, huh?"
This open-ended question can imply that you really don't want to discuss the topic. Answering like this also makes you not have to share personal information, but instead ask the questioner instead. If he answers with an offer to introduce you to someone, or ahem "Oh, still single anyway? Let's copy, sometime! ", Maybe you can consider it.
However, if he replies with an answer like "You are very interesting, I am confused why you still don't have a partner." You can just smile and answer with "If later I have a girlfriend and get married, you are the first to know! "
"When do you have children?"
The decision to have children is a very sensitive topic. There are millions of reasons why until now you and your partner haven't or don't have a baby. You don't have to reveal your reasons and plans for the future of both of you to others. So to answer nosy questions from people around, reply with a vague answer to change the topic to the questioner.
For example, like "Yeah, later. BTW ... How did you plan to renovate your house yesterday? "Or" In the near future. Uh, have you ever stopped by X restaurant there? The Z menu is good, bro! "
But maybe the objection like this will be less effective if the one asking is the parents or in-laws themselves. They certainly want to get a definite answer from you. You can answer honestly but kindly, like "It's not a plan now, sir. Because xxx "or" I'm sorry I don't want to discuss this mom, but thank you for asking ".
"Where do you work?"
You don't need to be ashamed if you don't have a job yet, but don't let yourself be a gossip or lecture object in the next family gathering.
You can answer with a sentence that is slightly floating but still positive and friendly, and makes the questioner distracted from the question. "Not everywhere yet, but I have told you that if last week I finished camping? That's a great experience, here I show the picture. "
That way, you will make the questioner eager to hear about your other life without discussing the topic you want to save yourself.
But remember, you can choose not to answer any nosy questions with personal topics. You can answer with "That's a personal question, I'm not comfortable talking about this, sorry". It might feel awkward, but a little silence and awkwardness never hurt anyone.
