Contents:
- Medical Video: Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 8 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner - Domestic Violence
- What is included as emotional violence?
- Signs of emotional violence in relationships
- 1. Often blame
- 2. Possessive
- 3. Saying words that are painful, but are considered as material for jokes
- 4. You must apologize, even though you are not wrong
- 5. Couples are always not there for you
- 6. Disparaging
- 7. Threatening
- 8. Isolating
Medical Video: Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 8 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner - Domestic Violence
Physical violence such as domestic violence and courtship violence to sexual violence such as rape are more easily recognized because they usually leave visible scars. Different from emotional violence which is often underestimated because the signs and symptoms are "unclear". Even so, the effects of emotional violence in relationships can be far more dangerous than physical violence, you know! Moreover, his actions are often not realized by the perpetrators and even the victims.
What is included as emotional violence?
Emotional violence is a type of violence that includes verbal attacks and is shown indirectly through manipulative behavior. For example, underestimating or degrading, berating, threatening, intimidating, possessive attitude that is excessive, or even totally ignores you.
Unlike physical violence or sexual violence, emotional violence in relationships is more subtle and often confuses the victim. The perpetrator can initially do various ways to make you believe wholeheartedly in him. Once the manipulation tactics succeed in damaging your perceptions and self-beliefs as a victim, then he exerts his action.
Signs of emotional violence in relationships
Victims of emotional violence generally do not realize he has been targeted because the shape is not visible. But make no mistake. Although not visible, the impact of emotional violence can be even more powerful. Starting from tarnishing self-esteem and self-confidence to severe PTSD trauma, depression, and suicide.
That's why it's important to detect as early as possible the signs of emotional violence that might occur in your relationship.
1. Often blame
"How come it's wrong, anyway! I already told you ... "
"Don't be awesome! I mean it wasn't like that! "
"You are making it up. That never happened. "
The sentences above have been thrown from the couple's mouth? If it is, it is highly probable that the couple uses disguised manipulation tactics called gaslighting. The perpetrator will continue to insist on twisting the facts so that the victim actually begins to doubt the truth of his own version.
If your partner often humbles you and twists the facts so that you look like an irrational person and lost your common sense, this is a signal of danger that you are experiencing emotional violence.
2. Possessive
Everyone certainly wants to be noticed by their partners. However, if this is done excessively to allow the partner to be possessive, then this is not good for your relationship.
"You have to call me every day, huh."
"Where are you? Who is the same? "
"Don't go with that guy friend, I don't like it."
Because of his possessiveness, there are people who ask their partners to provide passwords for all of their social media accounts. He said, it aims to prevent infidelity. Once he knows that you are away with a friend of the opposite sex, your partner will be furious and immediately blame you.
Jealousy is normal, but with a note that it is still within reasonable limits. Being too possessive and jealous can actually trigger your partner to be rude to you.
3. Saying words that are painful, but are considered as material for jokes
Nothing is more painful than when you get negative words, especially from your own partner. For example, he often calls you with negative calls like "stupid" or "ganjen" in front of your friends.
Especially if when you reprimand him for quitting, he just immediately denies or trifles with "Ah, I'm just joking. You don't need to be too sensitive. "
Be careful, this bad attitude has harassed you emotionally, you know.
4. You must apologize, even though you are not wrong
Keep in mind that the perpetrators of emotional violence usually have manipulative qualities. This means that your partner intentionally lowers you, makes you helpless, and puts you as the guilty party so that you continue to apologize. For example by saying like "Are you grumbling just because of such a trivial thing? The only thing is! "
Yes, this is one of the emotional violence that should be watched out for. If you do realize that you've done something wrong, certainly apologizing is the right step. But if you are absolutely sure that you are not wrong, have proof, and this unprovoked accusation keeps happening, consider ending the relationship.
5. Couples are always not there for you
At first, the couple will be sweet and romantic by giving flowers or your favorite items. Nothing else, this aims to make you believe that he loves you. After you get into the 'game', the couple will start being manipulative and verbally behave verbally.
Again, he will argue that this is a form of affection for you. Without realizing it, you will start blaming yourself for accusing the not-so-bad.
6. Disparaging
If every time you discuss or fight, he ends the conversation with silence or refuses to listen to you so that you are helpless and valued, this is a signal for you to end the relationship.
Or vice versa, if your partner keeps degrading your dignity and confidence. For example, you have just won a writing essay race or your new office project is a goal.
Instead of saying the word congratulations and encouraging, the coupleabusiveit will underestimate you. "No wonder you win. The participants are only a few, right small scope. "
This certainly will drop your self-esteem. In fact, support from a partner certainly means a lot to foster your confidence.
7. Threatening
This sign of emotional violence is clear. If your partner starts threatening to take over all the important things in your life, from money, home, even your children, this is a danger signal.
The form of the threat can also vary. Whether it's a threat to leave you, reveal your secrets, and so on.
Indirectly, you will be forced to continue to depend on your partner. Instead of strengthening relationships, this inner stress is not good for your emotional health.
8. Isolating
The coupleabusive and often emotional violence usually will keep you from your family and friends in various ways. Again, this is so that you can only depend on it.
As a result, your partner can act arbitrarily and harass you emotionally more freely. The easier you are to stay away from the closest person, the more difficult it is for you to get out of this unhealthy relationship.
