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- Medical Video: 10 things you didn't know about orgasm | Mary Roach
- 1. Can men know if I am a virgin?
- 2. Is sex really painful the first time?
- 3. Is it natural for a woman to masturbate?
- 4. What is orgasm?
- 5. What is the normal penis size?
- 6. I am not interested in sex, is this reasonable?
- 7. I am addicted to sex, is there something wrong with me?
- 8. Will men only be aroused by sexy women?
- 9. Can you have sex during menstruation?
Medical Video: 10 things you didn't know about orgasm | Mary Roach
When you were little, you might have a lot of questions about sex. However, the answer that you often get either explicitly or implicitly is, "That's adult business." However, even though they have reached adulthood or 20s, there are still questions about sex that have not been answered. This could be because you are embarrassed and reluctant to ask experts, health professionals, or people who have a lot of knowledge about sex. Because, sex is a topic that is often considered taboo by society. Especially if you are a woman, wondering about sex can get you a negative stamp.
In fact, anyone has the right to find out about "adult affairs". Either male or female. Both of them have sexual needs as humans, and in the end both will also do it together. So, women should also actively seek answers to various questions about sex that have been reluctant to express. One of them is listening to 9 answers about sex that are often sought after by these women.
1. Can men know if I am a virgin?
No, your partner will not know whether you are a virgin or not. Because the virginity of a woman cannot be assessed from whether her hymen is still intact. The hymen can be torn for various reasons, for example due to physical activity. So, even though the hymen is torn, it does not mean that he is not a virgin. Virginity can only be assessed from whether a woman has had sex.
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There is also the assumption that a person is still proven to be a virgin if he first had sex with a bleeding vagina. This is just a myth. Because, everyone has a different hymen shape. There are indeed very sensitive and cover almost the entire vagina so that it will bleed when penetrating the vagina. However, there are also very thick and small so that vaginal penetration will not cause tearing of the hymen or bleeding.
2. Is sex really painful the first time?
Sex should not hurt, even for the first time. However, if you feel pain when you first have sex, it can be caused by various things. For example, lack of lubricants or fluids in the female area, making love too fast, or because you and your partner are too nervous. If you are in pain, you should talk with your partner and find the root of the problem.
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3. Is it natural for a woman to masturbate?
Masturbation is a common thing done by both men and women. For women, this action is often covered up because it becomes taboo. In fact, providing sexual stimulation for yourself is actually a good way to get to know your body. Many women claim that masturbation can actually bring sexual satisfaction beyond lovemaking. This is because when masturbating, women will pay special attention to sensitive areas (G-spots) such as the clitoris. Meanwhile, when making love with a partner, this area usually rarely receives stimulation.
4. What is orgasm?
Orgasm occurs when you reach a climax or peak sexual pleasure. This is usually characterized by contractions in the uterus, vagina, and anus simultaneously for just a few seconds. Women also usually produce vaginal fluid when it reaches a climax. Women's orgasm is less common than male orgasm. In fact, there are some women who have never had an orgasm in their lifetime. Usually, vaginal or anal penetration will not bring a woman to the peak of pleasure. Many women experience orgasm by providing stimulation to the clitoris, without penetration.
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5. What is the normal penis size?
Every male has a different penis size. According to a study published in the Journal of Urology Study, the average size of a penis that does not have an erection is 8 centimeters. While the erect penis is 12 centimeters in length. For comparison, the average depth of the vagina is around 10 centimeters.
6. I am not interested in sex, is this reasonable?
There are some women who feel reluctant to talk about sex, watch porn, or imagine any sexual activity. Precisely when imagined, what appears is fear, pain, or disgust. These feelings can be triggered by various things. For example, from childhood you are educated that sex is a topic or thing that should be avoided in general. Both of the activities and information about sex. You may have seen sex as a dirty and inappropriate thing. Not that there is something wrong with you. You just don't get used to accepting sex as a natural biological process.
In addition, you may indeed not be interested in sex at all. People who have no interest in sexual matters are known as asexuals. An asexual can fall in love and be romantic, but does not see sex as a biological need or an expression of love. They will not get any satisfaction from sex. Asexual is one of sexual orientation, not any illness, mental disorder, or disability.
7. I am addicted to sex, is there something wrong with me?
If there are people who are not at all interested in sex, there are also those who cannot escape sexual matters. This obsession with sex is called a hypersexual disorder. Symptoms include being dissatisfied even though you have had sex many times, cannot control sexual desire, masturbate too often, are addicted to pornographic films, often change sexual partners, to harass others. Hypersexuals can be controlled if you seek professional help.
However, enjoying sexual activity and fantasizing about sex does not necessarily make you a hypersexual. As long as you can still control yourself and it doesn't bother you or other people, liking sex is completely natural.
8. Will men only be aroused by sexy women?
There are many things that can make men aroused. However, that does not mean the only thing that can make men aroused and get sexual satisfaction is a sexy woman. Every man has his own taste for women. Many men will feel aroused when they are with their beloved woman, regardless of the woman's body shape. There are also those who actually crave a woman who is pregnant or a woman who is much older than her. The assumption that only sexy women can make men aroused depart from various advertisements and media that aggressively displays women with certain body types as sex symbols.
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After all, body shape has nothing to do with someone's performance when making love. Someone whose body is sexy may not be able to satisfy their partner sexually. Likewise with people whose bodies are not like porn stars, they might be very good at sex.
9. Can you have sex during menstruation?
Some couples will continue to have sex when women menstruate. However, this falls on the hands of each partner. Having sex when menstruation is actually a special thing for many women. Because, sex can reduce stomach cramps and speed up the menstrual cycle. However, be careful because sex during menstruation can increase the risk of transmission of venereal disease. So, make sure that making love during menstruation is still done wisely.
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