Contents:
- Medical Video: Why Do You Allow Yourself to Be the Mistress In a Relationship?
- Why would anyone want to be a third person?
- This is what happens to the brain when you become a third person
- 1. Passion increases
- 2. Biological encouragement
- 3. Over time, you will be depressed too
Medical Video: Why Do You Allow Yourself to Be the Mistress In a Relationship?
What would you do if you fell in love with someone who was in pairs? The fact is that many people prefer to be the third person in a relationship rather than having to leave the person they love. However, is it really just because of love? Actually, what is the reason for someone wanting to be the third person? See here the psychological explanation.
Why would anyone want to be a third person?
The third person in a relationship of course will often be hated and disliked by many people. This must be borne if you take on this role. Because, you will be mentioned as a destroyer of the harmony of other people's love relationships.
Then, why did this happen? In several surveys conducted, they dared to do this because of necessity.
Yes, for people who are 'affair', they will feel their own fun and excitement when they have to hide their relationship and then meet secretly with their lover. This makes them more enthusiastic in undergoing romance than with mediocre relationships.
On the other hand, they feel confident because their partners come to them to look for things that are not considered to be on the couple's official lover. So, from here arises a sense of confidence that what is done is true. In addition, there are many benefits that can be obtained from this secret relationship.
This is what happens to the brain when you become a third person
All decisions, behaviors, and things you do will certainly be processed first in the brain as the center of thinking. When you decide to take on this role, your brain is actually working very hard. Then this is the work process of the brain when you have a veiled relationship.
1. Passion increases
At first, your brain will be flooded with the hormone dopamine, a hormone that creates a feeling of happiness, excitement, and makes you more energetic. A study from the University of Pisa revealed that dopamine levels when a person is at this stage are almost the same as those of dopamine patients with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).
At that time, maybe you will feel very happy to be crazy about your partner at that time. Not only dopamine, serotonin and endorphins are also produced, which adds to the feeling of happiness at that time.
2. Biological encouragement
When you begin to feel affection, comfort, sympathy, or even love, then the body's hormone oxytocin is produced. This hormone makes love, trust, and strengthens beliefs and bonds with your current partner. A study states that the amount of the hormone oxytocin in people who have a relationship is much higher than that for single people.
The more often you meet and spend time with your partner, the more hormone oxytocin is formed, then you will automatically feel closer. That way, over time you will expect more intimacy than this veiled relationship.
So, there is actually a human biological boost, that is, from hormones, why someone is willing to be a third person. However, that does not mean that this impulse cannot be stopped, huh. Humans themselves have a moral system, namely the ability to distinguish between right and wrong. This is what can help humans control biological impulses that are not in accordance with the rules in living in society.
3. Over time, you will be depressed too
Most of the relationships that are intertwined with third people take place in secret and veiled. Therefore, you and your partner must try to keep this secret fine. Nervous system experts state that this will only make your brain confused and eventually depressed by the big secret that must be kept.
You could say, when there was turmoil in your brain. On the one hand, you want this relationship to be known to the public, even though this is a big secret. Therefore, stress, depression, and emotions are unstable. The impact of this can make a person's mental and physical health disturbed.
So, if you think that this role is quite exciting to do, you should think again carefully. Is it true, the relationship you need is just a mere physical relationship? Are you ready to be second in any case? You cannot freely express love and sympathy for your lover. All of that, indeed returns to each of you.
