Contents:
- Medical Video: How to Intervene When Your Child Becomes Aggressive
- According to research, separating from mothers makes children aggressive
- Not only the mother, the environment also determines the behavior of the child
Medical Video: How to Intervene When Your Child Becomes Aggressive
The environment greatly influences the development of the child's behavior, especially the core family environment. Father and mother are the main guidelines that children will see and learn. Yes, that's why children should grow in a harmonious and ideal family environment. Because the disharmony of a family will have an impact on the formation of children's behavior.
Especially if your child has separated from one of his parents, especially the mother. So, there are many adverse effects that can affect the behavior of your child, one of which makes children aggressive. So why did this happen?
According to research, separating from mothers makes children aggressive
Usually, children under five years old (toddlers) tend to be close to mothers. So communication and bonding with his mother are stronger. Because, almost all care and care since the child is born is done by the mother. Even some studies state that strong bonds between children and mothers have been formed when the child is still in the womb.
Therefore, separation between children and mothers will form negative behaviors in children. Moreover, if your child has separated from his mother since he was under 5 years for whatever reason (such as divorce). A study published in the journal Attachment and Human Development states that separation from mothers will make children aggressive, especially if it occurs when the child is 5 years old or a toddler.
This is of course associated with the role of mother who was very important at that time. So, when your child separates from his mother, he will experience psychological trauma because of the loss of the mother figure needed. Children will get angry easily, cannot control their emotions, and be more aggressive.
All aggressive behaviors and traits occur because the child feels less of the love, care, and attention that he or she should get from the mother. Although it may indeed be the attention of other families, for example, the father or siblings are still devoted to the little one, but still the figure of a mother is missing from her side.
Not only the mother, the environment also determines the behavior of the child
There have been many studies that prove that children who grow and develop in a family environment that is not harmonious tend to have behavioral disorders. Children will be very quiet or even vice versa, very rebellious when they grow up later.
This condition is due to the fact that since childhood, children have been faced with family problems, especially if this concerns the parents who should be a guideline for him. So, when there is a problem that is serious enough in the family it will certainly make the child's mental development disrupted.
Maybe, when the child is still small, the impact of this incident has not been felt. However, when he has grown up and grown up, the aggressive nature he possesses will make it difficult to get along and make friends. Therefore, you should know the exact cause of why the child is aggressive and then overcome the cause.
In the end, not only the mother figure will determine the behavior of the child. Even children who are raised with their mothers can have aggressive behavior if the environment in which the child grows is not conducive. So, what should be a priority in parenting is an environment that is loving and caring.
When children show negative or even aggressive behavior, do not be immediately scolded, yelled at, or punished. Precisely what needs to be done is to guide the child with full tenderness, give an understanding that his behavior is not good, then train the child to vent his emotions in a healthier way.
