Contents:
- Medical Video: 10 Behaviors Self-Respecting People NEVER Tolerate
- Bad attitude that should not be tolerated
- 1. Underestimating and dropping characters
- 2. Manipulative attitude
- 3. Manipulate your insecurity
- 4. Don't listen
- 5. Treat you with humiliation
- 6. Show your emotions to you
- 7. Putting aside your thoughts and feelings
Medical Video: 10 Behaviors Self-Respecting People NEVER Tolerate
When someone is close enough to someone else for a long time, be it a boyfriend or a friend, he tends to act as he is according to his character. So usually you can see the various original traits and the bad behavior of the person without having to cover up like when you first met. Because you are close and understand yourself inside and out, you might be able to understand all the bad habits. Even so, there are a number of other people's bad behaviors that cannot or cannot be tolerated, for the good of yourself.
Bad attitude that should not be tolerated
1. Underestimating and dropping characters
We all need criticism as learning material. However, good criticism is constructive and motivating criticism in order to develop into a better person.
Criticism that seems to underestimate, ridicule, even drop characters with unpleasant words is not a behavior that is appropriate to understand.
Spicy criticism usually starts with the phrase "You never ..." or "You tuh always ... "without a concrete explanation. Examinations of negative words over time can crush the trust and dignity of the person who receives them.
An attitude of disdain can also be shown by not fulfilling a promise or ignoring what you say.
2. Manipulative attitude
A manipulative person will control the people around him to fulfill what he wants. Actors can do various ways to make you victim feel guilty and suspect themselves.
This condition occurs when the victim realizes or knows something about the perpetrator who does not want to admit it. When trying to discuss it, the offender insists on denying the reality and changing the accusation to the victim.
In this case the perpetrator changes the victim's perception that he is the real victim in the situation. The words "Ah, you are going around", "I think you heard wrong", "How come I was wronged? I told you already "(when in fact it never was).
3. Manipulate your insecurity
This one method is similar to gaslighting but more is done to make you helpless, stop you from talking, and make you in control.
In this way, he tries to take advantage of the things he knows about you, such as being nervous when angry, being timid when challenged, and a series of other weaknesses.
In the beginning, this behavior was indeed difficult to see and detect. However, this attitude is a pattern that will continue to do as long as it is related. Therefore, try to be sensitive and recognize various bad behaviors that you should not tolerate.
4. Don't listen
Have you ever found a friend or spouse who doesn't want to listen and refuses to discuss problems that occur between you? If so, then you need to be aware of this bad attitude.
This bad behavior belongs to the manipulative group. So, don't blame yourself by saying that you chose the wrong discussion time and so on. Mistakes are not in you, but in the bad attitude shown by your friend or partner trying to avoid talking.
5. Treat you with humiliation
Mocking, laughing, and showing physical movements such as turning your eyeballs to show insult to you is an attitude you don't need to tolerate.
Every healthy relationship between friendship and romantic relationships requires mutual respect and respect. Insulting through words and attitudes shows that you need to avoid people with bad behavior that is harming you. Especially if your partner is doing this.
6. Show your emotions to you
Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcism states that showing emotion is one of the favorite tactics of narcissistic people. Narcissists try to show their emotions and anger to you by clenching their fists and tightening the jaw muscles until their faces are reddened. In this way he tries to make you angry and dominate your feelings.
7. Putting aside your thoughts and feelings
People who always put aside your thoughts and feelings either by laughing or not assuming what you think are important should you stay away from. The reason is in a relationship to listen to each other's opinions and feelings each becomes a mandatory thing that should be done. If what happens is the opposite, it seems you need to think again about the relationship that you are living both with friends and lovers.
