Contents:
- Medical Video: I Want My Sex Back: Transgender people who regretted changing sex (RT Documentary)
- How can someone harbor anger?
- The buried anger affects sexual desire and satisfaction
- How to get rid of anger healthy
Medical Video: I Want My Sex Back: Transgender people who regretted changing sex (RT Documentary)
Husband and wife relations are not always smooth and beautiful. Sometimes, there are times when couples (couples) harbor each other's emotions but cannot be expressed. It could be because of small things such as forgetting to clean up the living room until big things like financial problems. Or you yourself are actually having a big problem in the office. Without realizing it, harboring anger can actually extinguish passion in bed. So that your anger does not spread too far and damage your sex life, pay close attention to the following important information.
How can someone harbor anger?
Anger is a natural reaction to physical or emotional threats. This reaction usually occurs when you feel hurt or underestimated. However, sometimes you feel too tired to be angry or fight with your partner. Or in your heart you know that anger will not be able to solve the problem. As a result, you also choose to harbor the emotional turmoil while wisely hoping that it will disappear by itself.
The buried anger affects sexual desire and satisfaction
There are some people who can release their emotions through sex. However, there are also people who will actually lose sexual desire when they are harboring anger. According to a study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, women are more susceptible to losing the desire to make love and more difficult to get satisfaction if he or her husband is harboring emotions. Yes, women are indeed more sensitive to the emotional turmoil their partners hide.
From the results of the research, the researchers explained that to get sexual stimulation and pleasure, women need good communication and low intensity of conflict. In other words, the better the mood and relationship with a partner, the woman will be more easily aroused and satisfied through sex.
In men, feeling underrated or threatened can lead to impotence or erectile dysfunction. According to a Belgian psychotherapist and marriage counseling expert, Esther Perel, this is because men unconsciously suppress their own sexual arousal as they suppress their anger.
How to get rid of anger healthy
After understanding the impact of harboring anger for your sex life and your partner, you need the right way to release the emotional turmoil that has been held. Consider the steps below.
- Be aware and accept that anger is a normal reaction to threats.
- Find out what kind of anger you feel and what causes it. Try to repeat the event that makes you angry and think again, what exactly makes you emotional.
- Take time to manage the anger. It could be by writing a diary, telling a friend, talking with a partner, or meditating.
- Communicate to your partner what you are feeling or thinking. By opening up, you will also find it easier to welcome sexual desire and satisfaction.
- Build a romantic and warm atmosphere before making love. For example, lighting candles, setting your favorite songs together, or giving each other an intimate massage. This will help you focus on intimate moments with your partner, not on buried anger.
