Contents:
- Medical Video: 11 Signs That Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You
- Why, do you like to check your partner's cellphone without his knowledge?
- 1. Trauma of the past
- 2. Lack of trust with a partner
- 3. Feel something is covered
- So, is this habit normal or not?
- It's okay to check your partner's cell phone, provided ...
Medical Video: 11 Signs That Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You
In addition to communication, the key to a healthy relationship is one of which must be based on mutual trust. Unfortunately, even though your partner has tried to be honest in any way, you may still doubt all his good intentions. Doubt is what makes you not reluctant to check your partner's cellphone to make sure nothing is hidden. Is this really true or not?
Why, do you like to check your partner's cellphone without his knowledge?
"All day yesterday he was chat with anyone, huh? "
"It's often difficult to contact lately. Who does he call, anyway? "
"Who else likes himkepo-in on the social media? "
Ever thought like that?
Conscious or not, haunted by these questions will encourage you to directly check your partner's cell phone without asking questions or even permission first. Well, it turns out there are several reasons that underlie this, including:
1. Trauma of the past
Never failed in fostering a previous relationship because it was cheated on, it might be the reason why it was so hard not to check her cellphone. The bitter shadow of being betrayed by your partner still remembers clearly in your mind.
This then makes you insist on maintaining the current relationship no matter what. One of them is by always monitoring the movements of a partner through his cellphone.
Mary Lamia, Ph.D., a California clinical psychologist, explains that emotional memories that occur in the past indirectly can indeed affect your current actions. Until finally, it fosters a feeling of fear that this bad event will repeat itself.
2. Lack of trust with a partner
The habit of always checking a partner's cell phone can start from the lack of trust in yourself. Like a building, trust can be regarded as the reinforcement foundation of a relationship. So when that suspicion begins to grow, you will subconsciously continue to be enveloped by worry.
Not infrequently, this will actually spawn trivial problems that can actually be discussed carefully. Gradually, you may limit the activities and scope of partner friendship due to lack of trust. Finally, he feels uncomfortable and is not comfortable with your habits. You certainly don't want this to happen, right?
3. Feel something is covered
Trigger factors that often you check your partner's cell phone are not always caused by yourself. Sometimes, the attitude shown by a partner can also influence your actions later. A psychologist and sex therapist, Shannonn Chavez, argues that someone who is not so open with his partner can trigger suspicion.
You, because you feel something is covered, finally prefer to find out for yourself by checking your partner's cellphone. The most common reason, because it is easier to confirm it yourself than to be involved in conversations that have the potential to cause contention.
Or maybe, it feels difficult for you to ask what your partner is feeling. In short, you like knowing what is really happening in your partner's life but don't want to communicate it directly.
So, is this habit normal or not?
According to Chavez, you are considered to have gone too far if you dare to check your partner's cellphone without his knowledge. Actually it is only natural that curiosity arises about the life of social media, email inboxes, short messages, and the couple's phone history. However, you should still limit your actions.
Instead of having to secretly always check your partner's cellphone, why not try asking just for the sake of channeling your curiosity? Don't let him later feel that your actions have violated his privacy limits.
On the other hand, this habit also calls for the wrong way of communication in your relationship. Indeed, your suspicion will be paid directly after confirming what's in the partner's cellphone. However, will it always rely solely on clandestine ways to ensure your doubts?
By always being enveloped by this feeling of anxiety and fear, no doubt you will always assume negative on your partner. As a result, it actually disrupts the harmony of relations because of the emergence of excessive suspicion.
It's okay to check your partner's cell phone, provided ...
There are some people who don't have a problem when their partner checks their cellphone, even memorizes the password to open it. Usually, this is because both of them have made a joint agreement before.
This statement was also supported by Ryan Howes, a psychologist at the Playhouse District of Pasadena California, that a relationship built on trust allows both partners to be able to have good communication with those around them without feeling suspected. Whether it's with family, friends, or colleagues.
