4 Psychological Reasons Why Love Can Fade

Medical Video: The Science of Love

Those of you who have a hobby of watching romantic genre dramas, you must have imagined that your love and your partner will last forever. Or for those of you who have not found a partner, you must have fantasized about finding a soul mate who can live and die together. Falling in love is certainly a normal thing for everyone, but don't forget, if you talk about the beauty of falling in love, you also have to be prepared with a sense of sadness due to fading love.

Yes, your love for your partner can be lost even without a trace. No exception for you who are bound in marriage. According to the National Population and Family Planning Agency (BKKBN), divorce rates in Indonesia ranked first in the Asia Pacific, the number increased by 15-20 percent from 2010-2015.

Divorce is not a sign that your love with your partner has faded, many other factors that affect, but if your marriage is problematic, love will usually also be lost. There are several reasons that cause your love and your partner to disappear, here are 4 reasons why your love fades.

1. Reality of life

Your daily life that is so busy turns out to be very influential with your love life, because in fact many couples cannot share their time well. As a result, many feel that they do not have a partner to share.

Couples who experience this usually will arise a sense of disbelief and if left unchecked will make things worse, especially for those who are in marriage. This disbelief will cause negative thoughts towards each other. This will easily eliminate the love of the partner slowly.

2. Communication

You who have a tremendous busyness of course also have a love life. Usually for those of you who are busy, communication is mostly a major problem. According to psychologist Will Meek communication is the most important thing about how you share what you are thinking and how you understand other people's feelings.

Communication certainly is not always synonymous with meeting, but about how you want to listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings. If this doesn't work, you and your partner cannot understand each other's thoughts and feelings. Furthermore, this will affect your love for your partner.

3. Time

In terms of love, of course feeling is the most important factor. According to Lisa Firestone, a psychotherapist, love may not disappear from your love life, but feelings of love for your partner can change with time. The intensity of your love for your partner can be very different when you first meet, and can increase or decrease over time until the feeling is lost and your love for your partner fades.

4. See changes in your partner

This can also be the reason for your love for your partner to fade. When you fall in love, you see all the good things in your partner. However, after you know the bad side of your partner, your love will be highly tested, you will divert some of your feelings to things you don't like about your partner, and this greatly affects your love and relationships.

Every couple must have different ways to deal with their relationship problems. If you are married, of course, the feeling of your love for a partner that begins to disappear will greatly affect your married life. It's good for you and your partner to immediately solve this problem together or meet the right person to solve it.